Sometimes what holds us back from our past is what we have done to someone else that is unresolved or unaddressed. We can feel guilty or ashamed, or there can be tension and hostility that is holding us back.
Jesus says that His followers are people who take the initiative to go and make things right with others when we have wronged them. We need to be people who apologize without making excuses, being ambiguous, blaming others, deflecting responsibility, and doing anything other than owning what we’ve done to hurt someone else and humbly asking them to forgive us if they can.