In this episode of You Are Where You Need To Be, hosts Viki and Niki unpack the chaos of modern dating—specifically the myths around “high standards” and whether people’s expectations have become unrealistic.

They explore how dating culture (and what we call “standards”) has shifted over time, comparing past norms with today’s expectations. Niki shares her personal journey of learning what she actually needs in a relationship (not what she thinks she should need), while Viki reflects on why healthy standards matter and how unhealed wounds can distort what we tolerate, chase, or reject.

Together, they break down why self-awareness, clear communication, and knowing your deal-breakers aren’t “being picky” they’re the foundation for building real, secure connection.