Transform with Dr Tony

Are you a people pleaser? Here's how to stop.


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Start here: People Pleasing Pathway (free teaching video) → https://psychevita.com/collection/13961

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People pleasing isn’t just “being nice”.

Often, it’s the fawn response — appeasing to stay safe. If you struggle to say no, feel responsible for other people’s emotions, or apologise too much, it may not be your personality. It may be a protective procedure your nervous system learned early: If I keep you happy… I stay safe.

In this video, I share the story behind a childhood photo — and how it reveals what people pleasing really is, where it comes from, and how to start breaking free.

The 3 core skills this pathway trains (via guided practices):

• 8.2 Somatic Attunement

• 1.2 Adaptive Emotional Processing

• 6.1 Impulse Control (building “small no’s”)

If you only do one thing today: Practise the PsycheScriptions once (2–4 mins), then stop. These are trainable skills — not through harsh confrontation or sudden personality change, but through daily micro-practice that gradually teaches the nervous system:

I can stay connected… without self-abandoning. Membership: £10/month or £100/year (cancel any time). App stores may display different pricing depending on region/settings.

Timestamp:

00:00 Intro

00:49 What is people pleasing and why do we do this?

01:13 Common signs of people pleasing

01:26 Layla's Story

01:45 The link between people pleasing and complex trauma

02:19 Physical consequences of hypoarousal over the long term

02:44 The origins of people pleasing

03:58 The cost of people pleasing

05:45 Conclusion

About Dr Tony Weston

Psychotherapist, executive coach, clinical supervisor, award-winning researcher, and creator of the Lifelong Capacities Map® — Dr Tony Weston.

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This content is for education and personal development and is not a substitute for medical, psychiatric, or psychological care.

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Transform with Dr TonyBy Dr Tony Weston