Are you accepting chaos or pursuing peace?? 

Boundaries help us get to a healthy place in our relationships! They help you stop feeling stuck & powerless. To be whole, to walk in your true identity. 

They help bring clarity to what is important to you, your needs & your values. 

2 healthy hearts = 2 healthy relationships 

When there is unrepentant sin in your heart the effects flow over into your relationships. This is another reason it is so important to check your heart & your motives. Are they in line with truth? If not, repent & heal! Healing comes from the healer, Jesus! 

In healthy relationships you will find, 

5-T’s 

-Trust

-Truthfulness 

-Transparency

-Tenderness

-Team player: where you can hold each other accountable & hold each other close at the same time. Speak truth in love! Iron sharpens iron.

You should be able to communicate what is important to you without offending someone. If your health & wellbeing is a problem for someone else’s ego, create space. Access vs responsibility.

Don’t put it off, What needs to be addressed, or the trash will pile up! A great resource is Lisa Terkeurs, “boundaries & goodbyes.”

Some key things I have learned, A boundary is for you! The Bible says above all else guard your heart for everything you do flows from it! Establish borders to protect your heart & what is important to you, your walk with Christ, your ministry, your health, your family & your future! If someone lack respect & understanding of what is important to you, then your responsibility is to create a guard. 

Boundaries are biblical, In the Garden of Eden when Adam & Eve where not responsible with the boundary God set. They had consequences & were separated from God. They did not honor the boundary set, they sinned against God. He set a clear boundary & when they disobeyed, He didn’t give them a warning, He quickly took action, explained to them the consequences & removed them from the garden & set up a gate with guards another boundary & this one they were never able to cross. God created space, he didn’t just limit their access, he eliminated it. 

Do you think that is harsh? He was actually protecting them, from themselves. 

Boundaries are for protection! And the boundary is around you & the access is determined by the respect the other person shows to your heart, to what is important to you! 

Jesus didn’t die for us to keep on sinning. He died so we can heal from our sins through access to the father. Sin separates us from God! Always has & always will! He is a Holy God. Light & darkness can coexist. 

If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.

Romans 12:18

Here are some tips to bring clarity 

In healthy relationships, you have empathy & understanding for one another’s needs. 

We all sin at times & make mistakes. Repentance to one another is a sign of a pure heart. Repeated sin patterns that cause harm & dishonor what is valuable & important to you is a red flag & a clear sign of a unhealthy relationship. If a person is irresponsible with your heart, guard it! That is what we are called to do because what is being done to you will effect you & in turn effect those you are called to love, lead, teach, & minister to. Especially those in close contact with you. And idk about you but I want to give my precious children the best of who God made me to be! 

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