HELLO welcome back to Inspo Family - Parent Talk! A podcast to help parents with the struggle of parenting. Parent Talk is designed to remind all of us that you are not alone in your struggles, feelings and well….parenting!

I am your host Alexandria and I am so glad you have joined us for today!

Today’s topic is are you an angry mom.

My answer is yes or at least i feel like i am one. I feel like I put on a persona for the world that I am calm, loving and caring but in reality I lose my shit over the smallest things and anger is how I manifest it. And i cant label it as being strict or kids don't listen, it is purely all me. But do you think I like being labeled an angry mom… no, but the reality is that is what i am.

About 50% of the time the kids are doing something i asked them not to do for the 100th millionth time, but the other 50% is short of patience. As a single parent we sometimes run ourselves very thin. I mean we have to hold a job down, pay all the bills, and take care of kids and whatever activities they have to do. It is exhausting and we never get time to ourselves let alone free time. Babysitters are scarce, money is tight and coffee is how we live…. That is no receipe for patience or peace, love or happiness… not even if you live for chaos which I seem to do. So how can we stop being an angry mom? How can we stop taking our frustrated day out on our children…

Breathing is a great start.. Taking a step back. Understanding what your triggers are and trying to work through them. Now are you going to have bad days of course, but those we have to work through too. I try to talk to my children after I am calmed down and work through my feelings and what happened with them. Sometimes i get a resolution for them that they love and they can forgive me and sometimes they still hate me because they still need time to process, but regardless of the situation we need to have that open line of communication. My kids tell me when I am being an angry mom. I also make my children do a 4 step apology so that it is meaningful.. They hold me accountable and I do it to.. It goes like this

I am sorry for _____

It was wrong because ______

In the Future I will _______

Do you forgive me?

I also tell the kids it is OK not to forgive someone every time but don't do it just to be mean do it because you really truly don't forgive them and are not ready to accept their apology. Apologizing doesn't seem like it would do a whole lot but it shows your child a lot more than you think...now don't be mean every single time and apologize because then it will lose its power. 

Working on being a better you and you can be a better mom and not an angry mom!

 

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