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Are you easily bored in your relationship?
Join Dr. Greg as we answer a listener's question: Any advice for someone who grew up in a very chaotic childhood so they have learned to feel comfort in chaos and seek it out? I get easily bored in relationships and when things are going very good, and feel very healthy, I feel very uncomfortable. I want to overcome that though.
If you find this podcast episode helpful, share it with the people you love the most. Send your questions to @abetterloveproject on TikTok and Instagram.
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For our listeners who didn’t have childhoods like this but are bored in their relationships, I’d recommend you take the pulse of how stimulating your love is. We’ll do another episode on this later.
For now, let’s talk about loves with folks who may have symptoms of complex post-traumatic stress. The prevalence rate for complex PTSD is .5 to .7%. If you’re listening and you experienced a very chaotic childhood like this listener, your relationship with adrenaline is going to be important to understand. The worst thing, is if this was happening for you, and you ignored it.
As I mentioned on a recent episode about anxious attachment, we adapt for survival and then these adaptations can persist into adulthood. They don’t work well now.
Hearing you’re feeling bored in day-to-day life isn’t a surprise to me. I'm a combat veteran and have worked with many people who have experienced combat, sexual violence, and unimaginably horrific childhoods. Our response to trauma will be different based on the unique context of a trauma and how long it latest or reoccurred. Earlier trauma is often the hardest because you may have lived in a chaotic, toxic home your whole childhood.
My first suggestion is to you be curious about it and I think you’re in this space now. This will help you move beyond attending to just the boredom and asking yourself, what it is you want or need in that moment? What I mean by this is that your emotional life is likely a bit more complex than just this one dimension. Work to understand the full picture of your physiological and emotional experience.
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Join Dr. Greg as we answer a listener's question: Any advice for someone who grew up in a very chaotic childhood so they have learned to feel comfort in chaos and seek it out? I get easily bored in relationships and when things are going very good, and feel very healthy, I feel very uncomfortable. I want to overcome that though.
If you find this podcast episode helpful, share it with the people you love the most. Send your questions to @abetterloveproject on TikTok and Instagram.
Free 15-minute morning practice (Yoga with Adriene): https://youtu.be/r7xsYgTeM2Q
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Transcript
For our listeners who didn’t have childhoods like this but are bored in their relationships, I’d recommend you take the pulse of how stimulating your love is. We’ll do another episode on this later.
For now, let’s talk about loves with folks who may have symptoms of complex post-traumatic stress. The prevalence rate for complex PTSD is .5 to .7%. If you’re listening and you experienced a very chaotic childhood like this listener, your relationship with adrenaline is going to be important to understand. The worst thing, is if this was happening for you, and you ignored it.
As I mentioned on a recent episode about anxious attachment, we adapt for survival and then these adaptations can persist into adulthood. They don’t work well now.
Hearing you’re feeling bored in day-to-day life isn’t a surprise to me. I'm a combat veteran and have worked with many people who have experienced combat, sexual violence, and unimaginably horrific childhoods. Our response to trauma will be different based on the unique context of a trauma and how long it latest or reoccurred. Earlier trauma is often the hardest because you may have lived in a chaotic, toxic home your whole childhood.
My first suggestion is to you be curious about it and I think you’re in this space now. This will help you move beyond attending to just the boredom and asking yourself, what it is you want or need in that moment? What I mean by this is that your emotional life is likely a bit more complex than just this one dimension. Work to understand the full picture of your physiological and emotional experience.
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