Adam blamed God and Eve for his wrong actions and reactions, and Eve blamed the serpent for what she did. Who are you blaming for your actions and reactions. Did your spouse make you say it or do it? Did the devil make you say or do it? God gave us choice and the choices we choose is why we do what we do? Blaming others for what we do is a powerless statement, because what we're saying is they had power and control over you. We must admit it before we can quit it.