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Have you ever caught yourself thinking that people never really change? Or perhaps you're convinced that transformation is not only possible but inevitable? This fascinating tension between fixed and growth mindsets forms the heart of our exploration into personal transformation.

davidji and Elizabeth dive deep into what makes genuine change possible, revealing that the first step isn't focusing on others but turning inward. "Put down the magnifying glass and hold up the mirror," Elizabeth suggests, offering a powerful metaphor for where true transformation begins. 

We unpack the cycle of change - from believing it's possible, to willingness, to taking courageous action, to celebrating small wins - and how this process creates lasting transformation rather than temporary change. But perhaps most illuminating is our discussion of how many of us live trapped in reward/punishment cycles, postponing joy while waiting for weekends, vacations, or some future moment to truly live.

Drawing from Eckhart Tolle's wisdom, we explore how to transmute ordinary waiting periods into moments of presence and enjoyment. Those five years we collectively spend waiting in lines throughout our lives? They can become portals to mindfulness rather than sources of frustration. By anchoring in our bodies, connecting with nature, or simply noticing what's around us, we reclaim these "wasted" moments and infuse them with meaning.

For anyone feeling stuck in patterns that no longer serve them, we offer practical techniques, including a beautiful meditation practice: "Hello, eternal loving presence." This simple phrase can interrupt negative patterns and invite connection with your deeper self, especially during difficult times.

Whether you're crawling through metaphorical glass or quicksand in your own journey, we remind you that honoring where you are without judgment is the first step toward freedom. And while transformation doesn't guarantee happiness, it does lead to something perhaps more valuable—peace and a profound connection to something larger than ourselves.

Join us in this episode to discover how the journey itself, not some distant destination, is where life's richness truly resides.

davidji and Elizabeth explore whether people can truly change, examining how our focus on changing others distracts us from the internal transformation that matters most.

• People constantly change on a cellular level, but psychological transformation requires specific conditions
• True change requires belief in the possibility of change, willingness to change, and readiness to do difficult things
• Breaking free from reward/punishment cycles helps us experience joy in the present moment
• Waiting periods (like lines or traffic) can become opportunities for mindfulness rather than frustration
• The Buddhist concept of kleshas (obstacles) explains what prevents us from experiencing our true nature
• Transformation doesn't guarantee happiness but leads to peace and connection with something larger
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