This is a question all women should be asking when interviewing a doula or midwife AND a question that all midwives and doulas should be asking when conducting consultations! Either way, this is an equal-opportunity relationship and the consultation is the most important first meeting that will determine which course a pregnancy and birth takes, and with whom! I have learned a lot about this over the last 15 years but it’s still a fascinating process that I enjoy engaging in and getting better at.