Words shape identity—and as fathers, the ones we choose can either build confidence or leave lasting wounds. In this episode of Raising Rebels, Joel and Tech dive into the real power of language in parenting. From replacing “don’t” statements with identity-building phrases, to avoiding sarcasm with younger kids, to using intentional anchor phrases that speak value and purpose, this conversation is packed with practical strategies every dad can use right away. This isn’t about perfect parenting—it’s about intentional parenting and raising kids who know who they are.

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Chapters

00:00 - Intro: The power of words in parenting

01:20 - Sticks and stones vs. real damage of words

03:10 - Words, legacy, and shaping identity

05:10 - “Don’t be lazy” vs. “You’re a hard worker”

07:15 - Why “don’t” creates the wrong mental image

09:45 - Coaching kids by shaping better pictures

12:20 - Speaking identity: “This is not who you are”

15:10 - Parents’ words and long-term self-image

18:00 - Calling kids up as leaders

20:40 - The 3-to-1 and 5-to-1 positive ratio

24:10 - Removing sarcasm with younger kids

28:20 - Age-appropriate humor and communication

31:10 - Anchor phrases that build security

35:10 - Routines that speak love, beauty, and purpose

39:30 - Challenge: One phrase to add today

41:10 - Final encouragement and call to action

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Links

SunlitStudios.com

@TheBibleShowPodcast

@UnderTheHoodFL

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