When Ary first came out, he had to reckon with the realization that transitioning might mean losing the support of his parents. For quite some time, his parents held firm that they could not support his transition, and begged him to reconsider. Ary knew that for him, living his truth was a matter of life or death. He chose life, in spite of how his parents may react.

Ary has been out as trans for several years now, and has taken it upon himself to share about his journey with others. He works in the coffee industry, where he wears many hats, from barista to technician. As for his parents? Well, their journey might surprise you.

This episode discusses suicidal ideation, family rejection, misgendering, and surgery.

This is Ary on choosing happiness.

PATRON SHOUTOUTS

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Thank you, Elaine Kohler! Follow @laineyofshalott on Instagram to view and purchase her beautiful mosaics.

Thank you, Umeko Motoyoshi! Follow @umeshiso_ on Instagram, and head to umeshiso.com, to purchase Umeko’s beautiful coffee cupping spoons. I personally have about 15 of their rainbow cupping spoon, and I use it every single time I brew coffee.

Thank you, Jeffrey Guillermo. Follow @jeffrey.scott91 on Instagram. Jeff is a dear friend of mine, who you’ll get to meet as a guest on a future episode of this podcast.

Each of these amazing individuals is also featured in the “Shoutouts” highlight on Trans and Caffeinated.

CREDITS

Closing Music: Helena Dryjanski (she/they). You can follow them on Instagram and Bandcamp.

Sound editor + Intro Music: Joey DiPeri (she/her). You can follow her on Twitter @NoraQRosa. You can also follow her band Fempathy on Facebook, Twitter, and Bandcamp.