One of our guiding principles at the Centre for Holding Space comes from Christina Baldwin’s book, The Seven Whispers: A Spiritual Practice For Times Like These. It goes: “Ask for what I need, and offer what I can.”

This little truism is the foundation of our relationships – between Heather and me, between us and our team, and between all of us and our course participants.

Many folks find the first half of this principle tough, especially when they have been enculturated or socialized to not prioritize their own needs. Am I allowed to ask for what I need? How do I know what I need? Do I even have needs?

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