• 0:48-Mom Montage | reflections on meeting baby for the first time
• 2:44- The reality around meeting baby and bonding with them for the first time 
  -expectations vs. reality 
  -1/3 of birthing parents deal with birth trauma 
  - the parent-child attachment bond is critical for social, emotional, and cognitive development
  -does not rest on any specific moment in time or one singular experience [including the birthing moment]
• 6:46 – We create and cultivate secure attachment beyond that first meeting moment by using the 3 R’s
  1. Reflection- using narration
  2. Responding [sensitively]
  3. Rupture & Repair
• 11:35- Why we should strive to embrace the messy and to be okay with a relationship rupture
  -children learn to trust through rupture and repair
  -we are teaching them to learn that we can move from a negative to a positive
  -we are teaching them emotion regulation 
  -they are learning about resilience because they didn’t feel alone as you helped them through these emotions
• 15:47- Our children are hardwired from birth to seek the responses they need 
  -the child plays a role in the relationship
  -it takes 2 to tango
• 19:09 – Daycare separation and the want and desire to be with your child for every “first” moment
  -the key to a secure attachment is proximity in order to explore
• 22:35- Does perfect parenting actually exist?
  -The notions of “reparenting” and becoming conscious of how you were raised 
  -Ask yourself, what did I need growing up that I did not receive?
• 25:21 – Self-Compassion 101
  -use your inner voice to encourage and lift yourself up not to be a critic 
  -speak to yourself the way you speak to your children
• 29:58– The importance of boundaries and limit setting with our children
• 32:20 – Why we should stop striving for perfection
  -It’s okay to step on toes as you navigate parenthood
  -Advocate for yourself as a parent 
  -The hardest part of the identity shake-up of Motherhood is learning to find your voice
• 34:55- Confidence Corner 
  Product 1: ERGObaby Embrace Carrier 
  Product 2: Stokke Tripp Trapp Complete +  Newborn Set 
  Haleigh’s Baby Registry Product Picks 
  Top Carriers of 2021
  StokkeTripp Trapp Product Review
   

About our Guest 
Dr. Tanya Cotler is a Clinical Psychologist, author, and speaker who specializes in reproductive mental health, infant mental health, and parent-child attachment. 
Through nearly 20 years of clinical and research experience, Dr. Cotler has honed her particular interest in the emotional bond between parent and child – including how it is formed and the role it plays in lifelong capacities for emotion regulation, empathy, and social-emotional development.

Connect 
@drcotler 
tanyacotlerphd.com 

Learn More 
@snugglebugzbaby
snugglebugz.ca