Authenticity is not about “being yourself” and excusing bad behavior in that way. It is about living from the inside out–expressing what you choose to believe and follow even if you are not perfect at it.

Husbands and Authenticity in Leadership

Husbands, you are important in the marriage relationship. There is no need to take a back seat and let your wife do all the work of managing the relationship. You were called to be a leader in your home and an authentic man will make the effort out of love for your wife.

You were not called to be rude or domineering, but you were also not called to give up all responsibility so your wife is forced to make all the decisions. Society has distorted the roles of husbands and wives, but the Bible has not changed. If that’s unpopular or even insulting, that’s not our problem. People can take it up with God. But at times we may be afraid to assert leadership for fear of looking like a bad guy. Here’s the thing–assert leadership without being a “bad guy” and you have nothing to fear. Leading from a place of authenticity is important because it becomes about what and who you love.

A Word to Wives

Wives, I know it can be frustrating if your husband tends not to take the leadership role seriously. How can you follow your husband’s lead if he sits back and lets you take over all the time? Is it because he is used to you taking charge? Are you actually taking the reins from him when he tried to lead you because you don’t like the pace he is going? Can you say you follow your husband’s lead if you don’t go his pace?

Build Love in Your Marriage

There are no easy answers to these problems but it all starts with learning to love each other from the inside out–authenticity! There are three ways to build love in a marriage. Learn about them in the podcast!

And if you have any thoughts or questions, please feel free to contact me.