“What I find so fascinating about life in general is how you think you can have something sorted out, but it just gets trickier and trickier. It’s a sneaky little motherf*cker!”

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Disclaimer: What we talk about on In My Truth tends to be very raw and can be triggering. Resources for support and help are included at the end of show notes - scroll down for more information.

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Welcome everyone to this episode of In My Truth!

I’m very excited to have a guest on today’s show who I met through a bunch of mutual friends on Instagram. He is Conner Moore, and just prior to recording this episode, we’d spent four days together with the Fit For Service crew and Aubrey Marcus in Malibu, and here we are on In My Truth, back home, full of downloads and excited to see what comes up today.

Conner is the host of The Realness podcast and a retreat facilitator at Soltara in Costa Rica. He enjoys helping people understand themselves a little bit better and at the end of the day take life a little bit less seriously.

Conner is currently moving through avoidance and the manifestation of avoidance in his life, and in this conversation we get both deep AND get distracted as we conveniently avoid the untruths we’re wrangling.

Take a deep breath, we're diving into everything we’re avoiding!

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Join your host Sarah Riegelhuth as she’s joined by Conner Moore in this episode of In My Truth, as they dive into all the ways they push against their personal development journeys: through avoidance techniques, blowing things up with partners, and falling into destructive patterns.

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“I feel like one of the first things she ever taught me was how to be disappointed.”

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Listen in to the In My Truth podcast as Sarah Riegelhuth and Conner Moore get deep into the tough stuff around being in relationships, whether they’re long-term and committed, just starting out, or we’re well on our way to non-monogamy.

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“I will spiral into crying, I’m in the middle of an argument with a partner, and the feeling I get is I miss my dad, I want my dad.”

Like many of us, Sarah and Conner are still working through their own personal healing journeys in order to have better romantic relationships, more conscious sex, and to call in conscious community.

Where are you in your healing journey and how does it relate to other parts of your life?

Conner and Sarah also get vulnerable with the stories they’re living with around:

avoidance

journaling

personal development journey

low-hanging fruit

integration

having a parent who is an addict

starting to date again

patterns of relationship

fixing people

never being alone

the righteousness of being the conscious one in a relationship

calling conscious community

fear refuges

reacting to fear unconsciously

the masks we wear to protect us from what we’re most afraid of

spiritual bypassing

reverting back to childlike emotions

resenting ourselves

conscious sex

scarcity mindset

the need for validation

abandonment

feeling trapped

our feelings compared to our realities

love and having to do the work

keeping excitement and novelty in relationships

different experiences of non-monogamy

“I’m saying that I want to attract all of these conscious people into my life, and all of a sudden I realise that when I’m faced with all of these people who are, I don’t get to be the conscious one. And my ego is like, But… who are you if you’re not that person?”

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Resources, people and ideas mentioned in this episode of In My Truth:

Soltara

Tara Brach

Heal Your Wounds and Find Your True Self - Lise Bourbeau

Dan Siegel - Mindsight

Esther Perel Podcast

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“I’m very open to the fact that this could just be another symptom of everything that I’ve always struggled with: wanting attention, validation, love.”

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“I had a belief that our love would conquer all and I wouldn’t have to work that hard.”

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Remember you’re not alone, and there is hope, even...