What if the problem isn’t your effort, but the systems you’re relying on?

In this episode, we’re talking about bare-minimum systems: the kind that still work when energy is low, schedules are unpredictable, and life refuses to cooperate. Because systems that only work on good days? Those are fantasies.

We’ll break down the difference between habits and systems (and why that distinction matters so much for moms), why fewer decisions beat better intentions, and how to tell whether something is truly load-bearing, or just aspirational.

I also share how this shows up in real life: from laundry and calendars to home rhythms and special-needs parenting, where unpredictability isn’t an exception, it’s the baseline.

If you’re tired of blaming yourself when routines fall apart, this episode will help you rethink what “working” actually looks like in a complex season.

Inside this episode:

• Why systems fail when life gets messy, and why that’s not your fault
• The difference between habits and systems (with real mom examples)
• How to design support for low-energy days, not ideal ones
• What load-bearing systems look like in special-needs parenting
• A forgiving, no-stress dinner that works even on chaotic nights

This is an episode you’ll come back to, because the goal isn’t doing more. It’s carrying less without lowering the bar.

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