Recorded: 7/26/2020 / Podcast Published: 11/26/2020

- Call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at https://kuldrinskrypt.com. On this episode of The Krypt we are going to talk about choking and breathe play.
- Rules to Love by:
1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young

- DISCLAIMER: This is extremely dangerous. We recommend you NOT do this. If you choose to participate in this type of play, you are taking responsibility for the consequences which could include serious injury and/or death. BDSM is NOT a valid defense for accidental death and if your partner dies you will go to prison for negligent homicide.

- Why Some People Are Turned on by Choking During Sex—and How to Do It Safely, According to Experts (By Gigi Engle, July 21, 2020 https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a26471117/choking-during-sex/

Have you been curious about choking during sex? Maybe you had a partner recently who, seemingly out of nowhere, asked you to choke them? Or perhaps you saw a porn scene recently where choking was the main attraction? What’s the deal? We have the goods.

Before we get into the psychology of why people are into choking, it’s important to address that choking during sex is extremely dangerous and should be done with caution. There are many risks. Just because you saw choking in a porn scene or are interested in it, does not mean you should just run off and choke your partner. With so much hardcore porn out there showcasing choking as this “no big deal” kind of thing that apparently happens every time you sleep with someone (it doesn’t), we suddenly have novices out here thinking choking is a first date activity. This is all around a BAD idea.

If you’re interested in choking during sex, you need to be so, so careful. This is not the same as spanking, light bondage, or other forms of kinky play. It is capital “D” Dangerous.
You also need to get explicit verbal consent and negotiate how you’re going to choke your partner before you even think about putting your hands around your partner’s neck. In a recent 2019 study conducted by Debby Herbenick, a professor and sex researcher at the Indiana University School of Public Health, 23 of the 347 female respondents described feeling scared during sex because their partner had tried to choke them unexpectedly.
So, why are people into choking during sex—and how can you do it safely, if you're one of them? We spoke to some experts to get the inside scoop.

- What's the psychology behind the appeal of choking during sex?
"For men, choking close to orgasm can have a euphoric effect on climax, but should always be done safely," says Lia Holmgren, intimacy and relationship coach, and the upcoming author of Play with Power. She adds, "Women can have more intense orgasms when coupled with breath play (choking).”

But the appeal of choking may go beyond stronger orgasms. The turn-on has deep psychological implications, giving both partners an opportunity to explore different roles during sex.
Choking highlights the giving and receiving of control. Giving someone permission to choke you—or visa versa—is allowing the two of you to take on dominant and submissive roles in bed. This is something many of us long for: A release from control, or the power to take it. For example, when you’re used to making decisions, perhaps the idea of letting someone else control you during sex can be a turn-on.

“Choking is an act of surrender when we completely trust the other, dominant party, and let them take complete...