Recorded: 1/31/2021 / Published: 9/19/2021

- In this episode of The Krypt Mayfair, the chatroom, and I, are going to figure out what BDSM Etiquette: Dom to Dom Communication is all about.

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- “BDSM Etiquette: Dom to Dom Communication Part 1-S03E30”
- This is a topic that comes directly from a listener and is one that, in my experience, isn’t really talked about outside of mentorships, really good Dominant training classes, or after the fact when there has been an issue.
- The listener, who consent to us using the messages as an example and wishes to remain anonymous, wrote:

“Question about Dom to Dom etiquette. I have a collared submissive that I allowed to play with a previous play partner (They were formerly D/s primary play partners, but she was not collared and did not need permission to play with others) This is the first time they have played since I collared my sub, it's been almost a year since they played.
We have never met in person only chatted on Kik, our communication has been respectful and the morning of the playdate I posted the rules to our group chat (the three of us) and then said Both of you have a wonderful time today. That's the last communication we have had. It's been 24 hours since they ended play.

Now to my questions @Kuldrin and others
1. What is the normal etiquette between Doms in this scenario?
2. Am I wrong for expecting some sort of Thank you for allowing him to play with my Submissive or something similar? I would definitely thank the Dom that allowed me to play with his sub.
3. If you were the other Dom would you have text anything after the playdate?
4. I was already going to send a Thank you for taking care of my bg and following the rules, should I send that now anyway.
I am open to any and all levels of advice input and/or criticism”

The dictionary defines Manners as:
1: Ways of behaving with reference to polite standards.
2: A way of acting, bearing, or behavior
3: The socially correct way of acting.

So what is a Protocol, and what is Etiquette?

- Protocol is defined as:
1: A code of correct conduct
2: The system of rules and acceptable behavior used at official ceremonies and occasions:
- Etiquette is defined as:
1: Conventional requirements as to social behavior.
2: The set of rules or customs which control accepted behavior in particular social groups or social situations

1: It sounds like you followed proper protocol. As far as etiquette, and keeping in mind I don’t know the time frame from start to finish, I would give a little longer notice on rules.

2: No, you are not wrong. However, some people are void of social/common courtesies.

3: Yes, I would have thanked you, assuring you all rules were followed or admitted to anyway I fucked up, and stated intentions of whether or not further play would be requested.

4: If you did not add a post-scene conversation between you and him in the rules, you can't hold him to that standard. However, I would send a message saying something to the effect of "I didn't have this in the rules because I didn't realize it needed to be but I am disappointed you haven't reached back out to me to say 'Thank you', give me an update of how things went on your side, or state intentions of future play."
Also, I...