Forgiveness is far more challenging than what we realize. We might say the words “I forgive you” but is there still hurt left. Forgiveness is not options for believers. It is a requirement. Jesus made it plain and simple in Matthew 6:15 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

Our father in Heaven won’t forgive us if we don’t forgive. What!!! So we can’t hold on to grudges. If we do, it contradicts the scripture when God says “….Vengeance is mine “ in Romans 12:19.

Being unforgiving is controlling and if you are not aware it can become your god. You begin to change your faith/beliefs system based on unforgiving. You have made a vow to never work with someone like your old boss. Unforgiving. You have vowed to never date anyone that looks like your ex. Unforgiving. You refused to let go of the past and forgive again because that is your form of wisdom which is your protection blanket from being vulnerable.

I hope you see where I am going. Christ commands us to forgive. There is a no discussion about that but we also must remember it is our job to free ourselves from any residue from the past. Let’s discuss 4 steps to become free from being unforgiving.

Matthew 6:15

Matthew 9:2-6

Matthew 18:21-35

Luke 17:3-4