In this episode, host Misti Dian speaks with Jessie Trout. Jessie Trout is a professional life coach and works mainly with men. Jessie also does some speaking, as well as some facilitation and mentoring with college students.

 

They Discuss:

• Jessie brings his substance abuse recovery and life experiences to his coaching to better meet the needs of society at large.
• Men are viewed as having toxic behaviors, which need to be coached to repair and facilitate healing on those behaviors.
• We need to deprogram society on the views of men to help them learn, grow, heal and become more honest about toxic behaviors.
• Be honest with yourself that you make mistakes or that you have toxic behaviors so you can start self-healing.
• Feeling and understanding your emotions can help to better understand why you have these behaviors.
• When listening to someone venting about having these toxic behaviors, you should mirror back what they are saying and show you are truly listening to them.
• Acknowledging you are afraid because you have these toxic behaviors is okay. In order to grow you need to know that its okay to be afraid of how to deal with them.
• People, especially females have a hard time supporting men on these toxic behaviors. Men need someone to love them unconditionally and give them great support no matter what they do.
• There’s a stereotype that men feel they need to follow in order to show they are masculine, but then society makes them contradict themselves. Society tells them “be a man” and then “don’t be such a man”, so in return they end up getting confused and do more toxic behaviors.
• Courage and honesty are key to facing your fears that you have these behaviors and the first step to getting support for them.