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Becoming Anchored S5E2: Reducing Resentment In Your Relationships

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In this episode of Becoming Anchored, licensed therapist Laura Deneen is joined by fellow licensed therapist Heidi Hensley.

Together we discuss how to identify resentment, cultivate compassion for yourself and others, and make decisions moving forward in relationships that align with your values.

Key Takeaways:

  1. Exploring What Resentment Looks Like: Together we discuss what resentment may look like: negative assumptions about the other person, emotions that build over a long period of time, and feeling as if you have no control over the other person. Heidi encourages listeners to begin looking for patterns of how you may interact in relationships, whether this is stonewalling, withdrawing, or avoiding when you are feeling angry towards the other person.
  2. Cultivating Compassion For Yourself and Loved Ones: It is important to have self-compassion for yourself and others, as lacking self-compassion may lead to more criticism of Self and shame for how we respond. If you struggle with self-compassion, this may lead to struggling to speak up for yourself, not validating your own emotions, and not being able to set boundaries. Self-compassion opens up an opportunity for empathy and understanding for yourself and your relationships.
  3. Moving Forward In Your Relationships: Laura invites you to begin being aware of your internal world, whether this is thoughts or emotions or physical sensations. Together we encourage you to begin to be curious about the “story” you are telling yourself in your relationships. Then, explore how you want to communicate with what is happening internally for you to your partner. Resentment may stem from a lack of understanding and getting your needs met. We encourage you to get curious about your loved one's experience, which allows for you both to get your needs met in healthy and supportive ways.

    4. This episode is full of insights on how to reduce resentment in your relationships overall and helpful tools to engage in self-compassion and to have the type of relationship you desire.

    Homework: Spend time in reflection of awareness of yourself. How do you feel when you are with certain people? Are there needs that I am ignoring?

    Affirmation: “My needs deserve attunement.”

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