Becoming Untamed Podcast

Whose opinion is making your decisions right now?I had a massive awareness at midnight. I was about to text someone, my friend said "right now?", and my decision flipped on the spot. Three days later I sent the message. That tiny moment showed me how often I let other people's opinions persuade my decisions, big or small, and how I used to believe anything I heard. Now I ask more questions, I sit with what I hear, and then I decide what feels true to me. (Grace)In one day a friend told me I'm really certain and could use more curiosity, and someone else told me I'm the most curious person they know. I sat with that for two months and asked how both could be true. I've learned to ask "would it be okay if I shared my perspective?", to listen to understand instead of to defend, and to say "tell me more" when someone tells me what I should do. Maybe I've changed. Maybe I want to change. (Jeremy)This episode is about other people's opinions: the difference between curious and critical, the painting we can each only see a corner of, why "different" takes the judgment out, how to give an opinion so it lands ("how does this feel for you?"), when to sit with a thing and when to act on it right away, and what to do when two people see you in opposite ways on the same day.Grace's question for you: when do you let other people's opinions persuade your decisions?Jeremy's exercise: grab a pen and write down what other people's opinions are currently influencing your life, how you actually feel about it, what you'd like now that you're aware of it, and one thing you could bring into your life this week.Tell us in the comments: whose opinion changed a decision of yours, and did you notice at the time?Full episodes every Monday. New episodes of Becoming Untamed: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLPnse0z-seQUBecoming Untamed on IG: https://www.instagram.com/becominguntamedpodcastJeremy: https://www.instagram.com/jeremycameron.authenticGrace: https://www.instagram.com/grace.laubenthal

What is your body telling you that you keep overriding?

I was sixteen when the neck, back, and stomach pain started. I was athletic, I ate well, I went to the doctors, and months of tests found nothing. Years later, doing the work, I connected the dots: a lot of it was me holding on to trauma and stories and patterns. Now I notice it in my low back, my stomach, my chest, and I release it by moving: a walk with Jer on the phone the morning a flood of anxiety hit, and the offer on my best friend's house came the next day. (Grace)

At the end of my marriage I had chronic stomach issues I didn't connect to the stress and anxiety I wasn't dealing with. I've been the guy who worked 120 hours a week and slept at the office. I pushed past in the gym, overrode the rest my body asked for, and got sick for it, until my body stopped asking and started telling. This round of my fitness has been the easiest it's ever been, and I didn't have to go extreme. (Jeremy)

This episode is about what happens in our bodies: the body holding on to what the mind won't look at, getting curious instead of critical about a sensation, releasing through movement, the difference between sore from a workout and sore from something emotional, burnout as a way of avoiding your inside world, why a rest day every week isn't a reward, and what to do when you don't know what you want or need: slow down, breathe with your feet on the floor, and trust the first answer.

Grace's one thing: get very, very curious about any feeling in your body. The minute she started getting curious instead of critical is when the doors opened.

Jeremy's one thing: if you're brand new to this, maybe you don't get the message at first. Just feel the sensation. Make a time in the morning or the evening to see what your body is feeling, and maybe write it down.

Tell us in the comments: where in your body do you feel it, and what have you been pushing past?

What happens when the room decides how you feel?

A family vacation. I was late to dinner because I had to write an offer, my family said they were disappointed, and I let it ruin me. That's when I realized I was letting my environment dictate how I was showing up, lessening who I was to meet people where they were at, and giving my power away to the situation. (Grace)

A few years ago I was supposed to go to the Bahamas and the whole world shut down the week I was meant to leave. I've had the "if I just had this trip, this group, this amount of money, then I'd be happy" moment, and the second I think it, I've handed how I feel over to my environment. (Jeremy)

This episode is about overcoming your environment, inner and outer: the people around you, the place you live, and your own emotional home. We get into what it means to be in the driver's seat of how you feel, how to stay in your own energy around people whose energy is different from yours (know your own energy, set an energetic guard, get curious and don't carry it), the "return to sender" practice for energy that isn't yours, letting go of expectations and outcomes, why "I'm not for everybody" is good news, and Jeremy's three-step framework: catch, choose, change.

Grace's one thing: when you overcome your environment, you are the one setting the temperature.

Jeremy's one thing: take a piece of paper, draw a line down the middle, and write who am I on one side and what's my environment on the other. Then one small thing this week to be you wherever you are.

Tell us in the comments: where in your life is the room setting the temperature for you?

When did it stop being safe to feel your feelings?For me it was first grade. I was a big, loud kid with big energy and big emotions, I was in trouble just about every day, and I learned that feeling things got me punished. For Grace it came after her accident. If she looked too sad, her family worried about her safety. If she looked too happy, people would say she didn't care. If she acted out, the court would see it. So she held everything in.In this episode we talk about what that does over time: the guard that goes up, the belief that you don't need people, the "I'm fine" that turns automatic, and the numbness that comes after. We get into why a feeling you don't feel comes back with interest, why you don't get to choose what to feel, only whether you feel it, what it looked like when we named our frustration with each other right before we hit record, and the four rings of friendship, from the people you pass on the street to the friends who are consistently present.Grace's one thing: feelings are an essential part of your growth, your connection, and your love. Mine: feelings are the seasoning of life. You're not too much. You're allowed to have an off day.Tell us in the comments: when did feeling your feelings stop being okay for you?

You only need permission from one person, and it is you. This week Grace and I ask whose permission you are waiting for, and what changes when you stop waiting.

I have looked around to see what everyone else was doing before I moved. I have asked a mentor what he would do if he were me, when the better question was what I would do if I were me. Grace started her real estate career on a team, doing what the agents around her did, and only later saw she had been asking for permission when what she wanted was a perspective.

Together we get into the difference between asking for a perspective and asking for permission, why waiting on someone else's yes turns into resentment (and who you actually resent), the boat you cannot steer until the motor is running, why maybe is a no, the red flags in anyone who wants to be the authority on your life, and the day I walked into a friend's house and took the home I have now without asking anyone if it was a good idea.

Grace's one thing: you only need permission from yourself, and you do not need anyone else's validation. Mine: other people's wisdom is a great launching pad, as long as it lands and aligns with you. When it does not, thank them for sharing, and let them keep it.

The question for the week: what is one thing you have been waiting for permission to do, and whose yes were you waiting for?

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Coming home to yourself is remembering who you already are. This week Grace and I ask what it means to come home to yourself, and how you find your way back when you have drifted.

At the end of my marriage I had no idea who I was, what I liked, or what I wanted. Rediscovering that was my first trip home, and I have made the trip many times since. Two Marches ago Grace sat at an event in Mexico with her journal open and realized she did not know who she was either. She told a friend she was having an identity crisis. Her friend said, "Words matter. You are having an identity awakening."

Together we get into how you start to sound like the people you spend your time with, the three steps I use to come back to myself (awareness, choice, change), why everyone wants change and few people want to change, what shifted when Grace admitted she was doing the work and secretly did not believe she could have what she wanted, and why calm felt wrong to her body after years in fight or flight.

Grace's one thing: you remember who you are, and there are many ways to remember. Dancing, singing, talking, the people you love. Mine: awareness, choice, change. You choose when you change, how much you change, and whether you change at all.

The question for the week: what is one thing you would do to come home to yourself, and do you believe you can have it?

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You can only be seen to the extent you see yourself. This week Grace and I ask why we are so afraid of being seen, and why we want attention without wanting to be known.

I was made fun of as a kid for showing up big, so I learned to hide out. It kept me safe, and it kept me alone. Two weeks ago a friend stopped me at dinner and said she wanted the raw version of my thought, not the one I had processed for her. Grace has wanted to share her story since she was 16, and starting this podcast showed her how afraid she still is of what people will say.

Together we get into the difference between attention and connection, letting people see you only on your terms, why receiving is part of being seen, presence as what makes being seen possible, and how to have a hard conversation without being harsh or making yourself the victim.

Grace's one thing: the people around you want to see you and cheer you on, and the first step is accepting yourself. Mine: releasing fear takes bravery, and if you release it at the root, your whole life can change.

The question for the week: who are you underneath the version you let people see, and who is one person you could let see that this week?

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Actions over words. Energy over both. That is how Jeremy measures integrity, and this week he and Grace turn it on the one person you cannot perform for: yourself.Most of us have two versions. The one in the highlight reel, and the one deciding what to eat at 9pm when no one will ever know. Grace shares what 75 Hard and her first Hyrox race taught her about discipline when no one is keeping score. Jeremy tells the story of losing 55 pounds, and why the weight came off this time when he stopped punishing his body and started choosing it. Together they get into why the same action can carry a completely different energy, how to notice a mismatch without writing a story about the other person, and what changes when you have people who let you show up exactly as you are.Grace's one thing: the most powerful force on the planet is staying consistent with how you see yourself.Jeremy's: you are on your path when what you do aligns with who you are.The question for the week: who are you when nobody's watching, and what is one thing you will do for that person this week?New episodes every Tuesday. If this one sounded like your life, send it to someone who needs to hear it.

What if the biggest thing holding you back isn’t making the wrong decision—but waiting for the perfect one?

In this episode of Becoming Untamed, Jeremy and Grace explore the pressure to get life “right” and why so many of us stay stuck searching for certainty before we’re willing to move forward.

At 49 and 21, they bring different perspectives to the fear of making the wrong choice, the weight of big decisions, and the stories we tell ourselves about what will happen if we get it wrong.

They explore the difference between certainty and self-trust, why every path comes with tradeoffs, and what changes when we stop trying to predict the future and start trusting ourselves to navigate whatever comes next.

What if there isn’t one perfect decision—only the opportunity to make the next decision with honesty, courage, and intention?

This is a conversation about letting go of perfection, embracing uncertainty, and discovering that the life you create is shaped less by one perfect choice and more by the person you become along the way.

Becoming Untamed — Designing a life that actually feels like yours.

What if the question isn’t whether you can have it all—but whether you’re chasing the right “all”?

In this episode of Becoming Untamed, Jeremy and Grace explore one of the biggest beliefs shaping our lives: that we have to choose between success and happiness, ambition and peace, freedom and stability, or building a meaningful career and living a life that feels deeply aligned.

At 49 and 21, they bring different perspectives to the tradeoffs we’ve been taught to expect and challenge the idea that living a fulfilling life always requires sacrificing what matters most.

They explore where our definitions of success come from, why so many people feel like they’re constantly choosing between competing priorities, and what changes when we stop asking what we’re supposed to want and start asking what actually matters to us.

What if “having it all” isn’t about doing more—but about creating a life where the things that matter most can exist together?

This is a conversation about redefining success, questioning inherited beliefs, and discovering that your version of “all” doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s.

Becoming Untamed — Designing a life that actually feels like yours.