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The way we talk about sex shapes what we see—and too often, we’ve learned to see in parts. Today, we take a jackhammer to the pavement of cultural scripts and rebuild a vision where sex isn’t “a thing” to get, but a way to love a whole person. We explore how lust reduces and love restores, why the body speaks of a person’s worth, and how honoring freedom, story, and dignity transforms intimacy.

If you’ve felt trapped in the loop of demand, disappointment, and dull desire, this conversation offers a way out: strengthen the will, slow down to see, and practice love that gives rather than takes. We also address consent beyond the checkbox, the quiet pressures that bend a person’s yes, and why a richer view of union and procreation can deepen trust and joy. Listen, reflect, and share with someone who’s ready to see more. If this resonates, follow the show, leave a review, and tell us: which lens will you practice first?

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Secrets starve intimacy, and silence keeps marriages stuck at the surface. We pull back the curtain on what it really takes to move from hidden struggle to honest healing: starting real recovery, disclosing wisely, and building daily safety through empathy, boundaries, and rhythm. With coaches Ann Donahue, Aaron Tagert, and James Craig, we break down betrayal trauma in plain language so both partners can understand why the body panics, why the mind spins, and what actually restores a sense of safety after trust has been broken.

We walk through a practical framework for momentum. The three C’s—community, content, and coaching—establish personal sobriety, but sobriety is only the baseline. The heart of repair is becoming a safe, present partner whose actions speak louder than words. You’ll hear how empathy and attunement rewire connection, why boundaries protect what’s good, and how initiative from the struggler communicates care. We also share concrete tools: the FANOS check-in to structure weekly conversations around feelings, affirmation, needs, ownership, and sobriety or safety, plus guidance on setting frequency and limits that fit your home.

For couples facing years of secrecy, we explain full therapeutic disclosure and why it can reset the foundation with clarity and care. Instead of drifting on separate islands of “individual work,” we explore couple-centered recovery that brings partners together sooner, aligning healing and avoiding mixed signals. 

If you’ve wondered whether telling the truth will end your marriage, this conversation shows how thoughtful disclosure, steady practices, and compassionate support can open a path to connection you didn’t think possible.

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Resources from this episode:

5 Essential Steps for Husbands in Recovery PDF

Awaken check-in FAQs

Becoming Whole Podcast: Aaron Tagert & Lyshel Burket on check-ins

FANOS

R2M Application

Becoming Whole Podcast: Disclosures

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What if telling the truth is the only way to make home feel safe again? We dive into the messy, honest reality of confession around sexual brokenness and how to navigate it when your spouse says they don’t want the details. With James hosting alongside coaches Aaron and Anne, we unpack why secrecy keeps control in place, why many betrayed spouses want truth without graphic play‑by‑play, and how to honor both integrity and nervous system safety at the same time.

We walk through five essential steps for real recovery. It starts with getting help: a community that tells the truth, content that explains the roots beneath behavior, and coaching or counseling that brings the story into the light. If your spouse knows nothing, we explain how to disclose with care and name what’s changing so the truth arrives with a plan. We emphasize support for the betrayed partner, groups, trauma‑wise guidance, and structure that restores daily stability. Then we outline how brief, scheduled check‑ins reduce dread and build credibility through consistent action rather than desperate, reactive confession.

If you’re ready to trade secrecy for integrity and fear for honest repair, this conversation is your roadmap. Listen, share it with someone who needs hope, and subscribe for part two as we unpack the remaining steps. If this helped you, leave a review and tell us what question you want answered next.

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5 Essential Steps for Husbands in Recovery

Sacred By Design Podcast

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What if the most important part of talking with our kids about sex isn’t a perfect script, but a different posture? 

We unpack why the one-and-done model backfires, how tone silently teaches more than content, and what to do when your own fear, shame, or grief flares in the moment. You’ll hear practical language for “I don’t know yet, but I’ll get back to you,” and how that single line can keep your child coming to you rather than Google. We also tackle the tricky middle ground of vulnerability without oversharing, focusing on emotions and beliefs—shame, belonging, body image—rather than graphic details, all while making sure kids know they aren’t our support system.

Caught your teen in sexual sin? We outline a third way between withdrawal and control: affirm love first, then collaborate on next steps. Expect rupture and repair, not instant perfection. Re-narrate the story with truth about brain wiring, cultural pressure, and real hope for change, and add wise guardrails that serve the relationship rather than replace it. Along the way, we challenge purity culture’s fragile target and point to a sturdier aim: spiritual maturity and Christlikeness, whether the journey includes clean stretches, hard setbacks, or both.

If you want scripts, tone, and a long-game vision rooted in mercy and truth, this conversation will steady your steps and open new doors at home. 

For more support, grab Treading Boldly by Josh Glaser and Daniel Weiss, explore our Parental Guidance workshops for churches, and look into Redefine Student Recovery for teen-focused care. 

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• Treading Boldly Book 
• Theology of the Body YouTube videos 
• Redefine Student Recovery with Blake 

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What if the goal isn’t to bubble‑wrap your kids from a sexualized world, but to raise resilient, shame‑resistant disciples who know how to repair? James Craig sits down with our newest staff member and parenting resource lead, Blake Brinkman, to tackle five urgent questions parents are asking: shielding kids from porn, responding to rebellion, setting wise screen rules, navigating complexity, and leading from your own healing. Together we rethink control, anchor everything in the Incarnation, and show why exposure may be inevitable, but shame doesn’t have to be.

We dig into why porn hooks the developing brain, how rupture and repair build secure attachment, and what freedom looks like beyond fear tactics. You’ll hear practical steps—shared‑space devices, filtered networks, clear consequence ladders—and the crucial shift from one‑sided edicts to co‑created agreements that teach teens to self‑govern. We contrast healthy boundaries with rigid rules, explain how to talk about desire without panic, and point to trusted resources like Theology of the Body for connecting design, dignity, and delight.

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Reach out to us at [email protected] with your questions and topics that you would like us to dive into. 

Resources from this episode:

• Treading Boldly Book 
• Theology of the Body YouTube videos 
• Redefine Student Recovery with Blake 

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👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
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Ever felt like you’re living two lives—one that prays and serves, and one that hides, aches, or acts out? We go straight at that divide and ask what Advent is really saying to our bodies: the Word became flesh. If God chose skin and bone, then your body isn’t a liability to your faith—it’s the home where Christ loves, heals, and restores.

If this met you, share it with a friend who needs hope, subscribe for more conversations on embodied faith, and leave a review with one takeaway you’ll try this week. Where does your body most long to meet Jesus?

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Start with a simple claim that changes everything: your body is not an accessory to your soul; it’s where God meets you. We explore how the incarnation—God with us in a body—reframes three charged realities shaping our lives right now: transgender ideology, AI’s growing role in sexual temptation, and a culture-wide surge of loneliness.

If this conversation helps you rethink identity, desire, or connection, share it with a friend, subscribe for more, and leave a review with one practice you’ll try this week.  If you have any follow-up questions, we would love to hear them.

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• Rise & Triumph of the Modern Self by Carl Truman
• Love Thy Body by Nancy Pearcy
• Psychology Today article
• Unwanted by Jay Stringer

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What if the loudest name over your life isn’t the truest one? Opening with Genesis and the image of God forming humans from the dust, declaring us very good before performance, accolades, or failure ever show up. From there, we take an honest look at the voices that compete for our identity—worldly success metrics, other people’s wounds, cultural comparison, and the enemy’s oldest tactic of questioning who we are. These voices don’t just echo; they shape thought patterns, build neural pathways, and quietly script the false self we end up wearing.

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• The Return of the Prodigal Son - Henri Nouwen
• Abba’s Child - Brennan Manning
• Jamie Winship - Identity Exchange

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What if freedom from porn isn’t about fighting harder, but about growing deeper? We sit down with author and coach Drew Boa to reframe the struggle with clarity and compassion, exploring how porn often acts as a regulator for unprocessed emotions and unmet attachment needs. Instead of battling urges with shame, we talk about befriending the parts of us that first learned to cope this way and inviting them into real safety and connection.

Ready to trade counterfeit comfort for a real connection? Listen now, then share your biggest takeaway. If this helped, subscribe, leave a review, and pass it to someone who needs hope today.

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• Husband Material Website
• Drew Boa Website
• Outgrowing Porn Website
• Outgrow Porn Free Chapter 1
• Amazon Link for Outgrowing Porn 
• Porn Free Man Conference
• The Rescue 

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Safety isn’t a feeling you can force, and “good” isn’t a real update. We sit down with coach and Hope Redefined founder Lyschel Burkett to map out a better way for couples to reconnect after betrayal: structured, mutual check-ins that trade control for connection and shame for safety. If you’ve tried to talk and ended up in a spiral, this conversation gives you words, rails, and hope.

If this episode helped, follow the show, share with a friend who needs hope, and leave a rating and review so others can find it.

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• Hope Redefined 
• Hope For Wives Podcast
• Hope Redefined Couples Check-in

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