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What if the way we talk about sexuality is the very thing keeping us stuck? We trace the surprising origins of “heterosexual” and “homosexual,” unpack why those categories took hold, and explore how turning desires into identity reshaped culture, conscience, and the church. We draw from Michael Hannon’s “Against Heterosexuality” and Michel Foucault’s history of sexuality to show how an invented binary promised clarity but delivered confusion, shame, and pride.

We share why language isn’t neutral—names create lenses—and how the orientation frame quietly shifted moral questions from action and virtue to inner self-analysis. For those who experience same-sex desire, we acknowledge the weight of being told a label is who you are. For those who consider themselves “straight,” we challenge the complacency that excuses lust as normal and forgets that chastity is for everyone. Together, we re-center three layers: desires that need formation, behaviors that shape us, and an identity received from the One who made us male and female with purpose.

If this resonates, share it with a friend, subscribe for more episodes, and leave a review with the one question you still want us to tackle.

Resources from this episode:

Article reference: Against Heterosexuality - First Things by Michael W. Hannon

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You’re invited to Regeneration’s Annual Dessert Fundraiser on Thursday, March 19, at 6:00 PM at Martins Valley Mansion. Join us for an encouraging evening of real stories and renewed hope as we celebrate how Christ is bringing healing and restoration in our city. Dessert is provided, and seating is limited. Learn more, register, or host a table RSVP

Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:

👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

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What if your imagination isn’t a liability but a lifeline? We open a candid conversation about fantasy, romance, and the deep longings that quietly direct our relationships with ourselves, others, and God. Rather than treating desire like a problem to fix, we treat it like a compass—one that often points to unmet needs for being seen, soothed, safe, and secure.

Join us, get curious, and take the next brave step. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review.

Also, we want to hear from you. What is your longing pointing you toward?

Resources from this episode:

Unwanted Intensive

Stuck in unwanted sexual behaviors and wondering, “How did I get here—and how do I get out?”

Regeneration is launching our next Men’s Small Group Intensive, based on Unwanted, designed for men ready to go deeper in recovery.

Over 8 weeks, you’ll:

• Engage your story with curiosity and compassion
• Identify patterns that keep you stuck
• Shift from a “freedom from” mindset to a “freedom for” life
• Experience deeper healing, connection, and wholeness

🗓 April 7 – May 26
🕐 Tuesdays | 1–3 pm ET (Zoom)
 👥 Limited to 6 men | High-support, high-accountability

Led by Aaron Tagert, Certified Unwanted Guide

👉Sign-up for Unwanted Intensive

Healing Through Story

Discover how your story has shaped your life and how it connects to your unwanted sexual behavior.

This is an 8-week course to help you learn the structure of your story, how to share your story, and, in turn, learn the power of your story. 

🗓 April 20 – June 22
🕐 Mondays | 7–8:30 pm

👉Sign-up for Healing Through Story

🗓️ Upcoming:

You’re invited to Regeneration’s Annual Dessert Fundraiser on Thursday, March 19, at 6:00 PM at Martins Valley Mansion. Join us for an encouraging evening of real stories and renewed hope as we celebrate how Christ is bringing healing and restoration in our city. Dessert is provided, and seating is limited. Learn more, register, or host a table RSVP

Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:

👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

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Shame, Isolation, and Why Community Is the Opposite of Addiction 

Join us in today’s episode as I (James Craig) sit down with Regen coach Aaron Tagert to talk about what keeps people stuck in addictive cycles—especially around porn and unwanted sexual behaviors. Aaron shares three major drivers he’ll cover in an upcoming men’s webinar: shame, isolation, and the uncomfortable truth that there can be something about porn that part of us “likes.” 

We focus mainly on isolation, pulling from Marcus Warner’s "Slaying the Monster" and the idea that the opposite of addiction isn’t sobriety—it’s community. 

We unpack how isolation turns suffering into trauma, how many wounds happen in relationships, yet healing also comes through relationships, and why belonging matters more than accountability. 

We also get practical with four simple ways to start building community—smile, validate, help, and share—, and we invite men to Regeneration's live webinar on March 5th. If this helps you, share it with someone who feels alone in the struggle.

Resources from this episode:

• BATTLE podcast 
• Slaying the Monster book
• TED talk on addiction

🗓️ Upcoming:

You’re invited to Regeneration’s Annual Dessert Fundraiser on Thursday, March 19, at 6:00 PM at Martins Valley Mansion. Join us for an encouraging evening of real stories and renewed hope as we celebrate how Christ is bringing healing and restoration in our city. Dessert is provided, and seating is limited. Learn more, register, or host a table RSVP

Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:

👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

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Repentance doesn’t have to sound like a finger wag. We explore a better way: turning as realignment with God’s character and kingdom. Especially for those worn out by “just stop it” advice or guilt-heavy apologies that never seem to change anything. Drawing on the idea of metanoia—the turning of the mind—we share how repentance becomes a process shaped by what we feed our attention, who we walk with, and how we pray with our bodies when desire runs hot, and feelings run cold.

If repentance as realignment sounds like good news you could live with, press play. Then share this episode with a friend who needs hope, subscribe for more, and leave a review to help others find their way into freedom.

Resources from this episode:

• 7 Hebrew Words For Praise.pdf

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You’re invited to Regeneration’s Annual Dessert Fundraiser on Thursday, March 19, at 6:00 PM at Martins Valley Mansion. Join us for an encouraging evening of real stories and renewed hope as we celebrate how Christ is bringing healing and restoration in our city. Dessert is provided, and seating is limited. Learn more, register, or host a table RSVP

Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:

👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

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What if the missing piece in recovery and marriage isn’t more discipline, but deeper confidence? Not swagger. Not self-worship. A grounded assurance that you’re God’s workmanship, made very good, and called to show up with your whole self for the good of others. 

We unpack how this kind of confidence breaks the cycle of lust and fantasy by replacing shortcuts with purpose and presence, and why it’s the difference between real love and people-pleasing.

If this resonates, share it with a friend who needs courage today, subscribe for more conversations like this, and leave a review with one belief about yourself you’re ready to replace.

Resources from this episode:

• Good Will Hunting (🚨 language warning)
• Genesis 1:31, Ephesians 2:10, 1 Corinthians 12
• Created for Greatness: The Power of Magnanimity by Alexandre Havard

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You’re invited to Regeneration’s Annual Dessert Fundraiser on Thursday, March 19, at 6:00 PM at Martins Valley Mansion. Join us for an encouraging evening of real stories and renewed hope as we celebrate how Christ is bringing healing and restoration in our city. Dessert is provided, and seating is limited. Learn more, register, or host a table RSVP

Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:

👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

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Temptation rarely arrives out of nowhere—it rides in on pain, pressure, and old stories that never got the care they needed. In this episode, Josh checks in with coaches Aaron Tagert and James Craig to explore a kinder, braver way to face unwanted sexual behavior: trade shame for curiosity, isolation for relationship, and quick fixes for deep repair.

We start by reframing triggers as signals of emotional or physical discomfort, then show why “why” is the wrong starting question. Instead, we lean into who, what, when, where, and how—questions that ground you in your body, invite empathy, and open space for God’s presence. From there, we walk through practical tools: story work you write and read aloud to a safe person, grief work that honors losses across the years, and healing prayer that invites Jesus into the memory where the wound began. These practices create integration and reduce the power of secrecy.

If you’re tired of white-knuckle rules and want a path that blends neuroscience, spiritual formation, and practical steps, this conversation offers clarity and hope. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review telling us which question you’ll practice this week.

Resources in this episode:

• 7 Desires of Every Heart.pdf
• Anatomy of the Soul by Curt Thompson
• Unwanted by Jay Stringer 
• Email us questions!  [email protected]

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You’re invited to Regeneration’s Annual Dessert Fundraiser on Thursday, March 19, at 6:00 PM at Martins Valley Mansion. Join us for an encouraging evening of real stories and renewed hope as we celebrate how Christ is bringing healing and restoration in our city. Dessert is provided, and seating is limited. Learn more, register, or host a table RSVP

Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:

👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

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The way we talk about sex shapes what we see—and too often, we’ve learned to see in parts. Today, we take a jackhammer to the pavement of cultural scripts and rebuild a vision where sex isn’t “a thing” to get, but a way to love a whole person. We explore how lust reduces and love restores, why the body speaks of a person’s worth, and how honoring freedom, story, and dignity transforms intimacy.

If you’ve felt trapped in the loop of demand, disappointment, and dull desire, this conversation offers a way out: strengthen the will, slow down to see, and practice love that gives rather than takes. We also address consent beyond the checkbox, the quiet pressures that bend a person’s yes, and why a richer view of union and procreation can deepen trust and joy. Listen, reflect, and share with someone who’s ready to see more. If this resonates, follow the show, leave a review, and tell us: which lens will you practice first?

🗓️ Upcoming:

You’re invited to Regeneration’s Annual Dessert Fundraiser on Thursday, March 19, at 6:00 PM at Martins Valley Mansion. Join us for an encouraging evening of real stories and renewed hope as we celebrate how Christ is bringing healing and restoration in our city. Dessert is provided, and seating is limited. Learn more, register, or host a table RSVP

Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:

👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

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Secrets starve intimacy, and silence keeps marriages stuck at the surface. We pull back the curtain on what it really takes to move from hidden struggle to honest healing: starting real recovery, disclosing wisely, and building daily safety through empathy, boundaries, and rhythm. With coaches Ann Donahue, Aaron Tagert, and James Craig, we break down betrayal trauma in plain language so both partners can understand why the body panics, why the mind spins, and what actually restores a sense of safety after trust has been broken.

We walk through a practical framework for momentum. The three C’s—community, content, and coaching—establish personal sobriety, but sobriety is only the baseline. The heart of repair is becoming a safe, present partner whose actions speak louder than words. You’ll hear how empathy and attunement rewire connection, why boundaries protect what’s good, and how initiative from the struggler communicates care. We also share concrete tools: the FANOS check-in to structure weekly conversations around feelings, affirmation, needs, ownership, and sobriety or safety, plus guidance on setting frequency and limits that fit your home.

For couples facing years of secrecy, we explain full therapeutic disclosure and why it can reset the foundation with clarity and care. Instead of drifting on separate islands of “individual work,” we explore couple-centered recovery that brings partners together sooner, aligning healing and avoiding mixed signals. 

If you’ve wondered whether telling the truth will end your marriage, this conversation shows how thoughtful disclosure, steady practices, and compassionate support can open a path to connection you didn’t think possible.

If this helped you, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review so others can find it. Your story might be the spark for someone else’s healing.

Resources from this episode:

5 Essential Steps for Husbands in Recovery PDF

Awaken check-in FAQs

Becoming Whole Podcast: Aaron Tagert & Lyshel Burket on check-ins

FANOS

R2M Application

Becoming Whole Podcast: Disclosures

🗓️ Upcoming:

You’re invited to Regeneration’s Annual Dessert Fundraiser on Thursday, March 19, at 6:00 PM at Martins Valley Mansion. Join us for an encouraging evening of real stories and renewed hope as we celebrate how Christ is bringing healing and restoration in our city. Dessert is provided, and seating is limited. Learn more, register, or host a table RSVP

Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:

👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

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What if telling the truth is the only way to make home feel safe again? We dive into the messy, honest reality of confession around sexual brokenness and how to navigate it when your spouse says they don’t want the details. With James hosting alongside coaches Aaron and Anne, we unpack why secrecy keeps control in place, why many betrayed spouses want truth without graphic play‑by‑play, and how to honor both integrity and nervous system safety at the same time.

We walk through five essential steps for real recovery. It starts with getting help: a community that tells the truth, content that explains the roots beneath behavior, and coaching or counseling that brings the story into the light. If your spouse knows nothing, we explain how to disclose with care and name what’s changing so the truth arrives with a plan. We emphasize support for the betrayed partner, groups, trauma‑wise guidance, and structure that restores daily stability. Then we outline how brief, scheduled check‑ins reduce dread and build credibility through consistent action rather than desperate, reactive confession.

If you’re ready to trade secrecy for integrity and fear for honest repair, this conversation is your roadmap. Listen, share it with someone who needs hope, and subscribe for part two as we unpack the remaining steps. If this helped you, leave a review and tell us what question you want answered next.

Resources:

5 Essential Steps for Husbands in Recovery

Sacred By Design Podcast

🗓️ Upcoming:

You’re invited to Regeneration’s Annual Dessert Fundraiser on Thursday, March 19, at 6:00 PM at Martins Valley Mansion. Join us for an encouraging evening of real stories and renewed hope as we celebrate how Christ is bringing healing and restoration in our city. Dessert is provided, and seating is limited. Learn more, register, or host a table RSVP

Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:

👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

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What if the most important part of talking with our kids about sex isn’t a perfect script, but a different posture? 

We unpack why the one-and-done model backfires, how tone silently teaches more than content, and what to do when your own fear, shame, or grief flares in the moment. You’ll hear practical language for “I don’t know yet, but I’ll get back to you,” and how that single line can keep your child coming to you rather than Google. We also tackle the tricky middle ground of vulnerability without oversharing, focusing on emotions and beliefs—shame, belonging, body image—rather than graphic details, all while making sure kids know they aren’t our support system.

Caught your teen in sexual sin? We outline a third way between withdrawal and control: affirm love first, then collaborate on next steps. Expect rupture and repair, not instant perfection. Re-narrate the story with truth about brain wiring, cultural pressure, and real hope for change, and add wise guardrails that serve the relationship rather than replace it. Along the way, we challenge purity culture’s fragile target and point to a sturdier aim: spiritual maturity and Christlikeness, whether the journey includes clean stretches, hard setbacks, or both.

If you want scripts, tone, and a long-game vision rooted in mercy and truth, this conversation will steady your steps and open new doors at home. 

For more support, grab Treading Boldly by Josh Glaser and Daniel Weiss, explore our Parental Guidance workshops for churches, and look into Redefine Student Recovery for teen-focused care. 

Subscribe, leave a review, and share this with a parent who needs a deep breath and a fresh start.

Resources from this episode:

• Treading Boldly Book 
• Theology of the Body YouTube videos 
• Redefine Student Recovery with Blake 

🗓️ Upcoming:

You’re invited to Regeneration’s Annual Dessert Fundraiser on Thursday, March 19, at 6:00 PM at Martins Valley Mansion. Join us for an encouraging evening of real stories and renewed hope as we celebrate how Christ is bringing healing and restoration in our city. Dessert is provided, and seating is limited. Learn more, register, or host a table RSVP

Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:

👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)