Before Pleasure Comes Safety

Intimacy, pleasure and erotic arousal all require a sense of safety to emerge. In this episode we explore why the human body needs to feel safe before pleasurable play, creative joy and erotic connection can authentically emerge. We look at the anatomy of social safety, fear vs. excitement, and the autonomic nervous system. Then we offer strategies for connecting with a sense of safety and finding ways to relax into play.

In this Speaking of Sex episode, we introduce a life-changing framework called Polyvagal Theory and how it influences our ability to relax, enjoy and play with one another as human beings. For way more resources on safety, play and arousal, visit us at PleasureMechanics.com/play

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This podcast is dedicated to #PassionatePolyvagalist Deb Dana, with huge thanks for her tremendous educational resources on Polyvagal Theory:  The Polyvagal Theory In Therapy and Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection

Transcript of Podcast Episode “Before Pleasure Comes Safety”

Chris Maxwell Rose (00:00):Welcome to Speaking of Sex with the Pleasure Mechanics. I’m Chris.

Charlotte Mia Rose (00:05):I’m Charlotte.

Chris Maxwell Rose (00:06):We are the Pleasure Mechanics. And on this podcast, we have honest, explicit, soulful conversations about pleasure, joy and intimate connection. Come on over to pleasuremechanics.com where you will find all that we have to offer. And we have a lot to offer, because we have been the Pleasure Mechanics since 2006, making this our 15th year together, and our 15th year devoting ourselves to generating online resources so you can come into more pleasure and joy and connection in your life on your terms. And it’s been really sweet realizing it’s our 15th year together. We’re starting to really move through our archives, because we discovered with the help of many of you, our dear listeners, that most podcast feeds cut off after 200 episodes. And we are coming up on 400 episodes of the Speaking of Sex podcast. What’s up? Yes.

Chris Maxwell Rose (01:10):And as we do, we’re realizing that many of our foundational episodes where we lay out our core principles and ideas are starting to fall under that 200 episode mark and kind of getting lost in the archives. So we are curating our archives, organizing the best resources for you,