What happens in the moment between feeling something and saying it?

In this episode of ReflectInQuiry, I’m joined by Dr. Loretta J. Ross — activist, professor, MacArthur Fellow, and author of Calling In: How to Start Making Change with Those You’d Rather Cancel— for a deeply personal conversation about how we show up with integrity in our everyday lives.

Dr. Ross reflects on the practice of pausing before your trauma speaks. On calling people in rather than calling them out. On forgiving yourself for not being perfect — so you can extend that same grace to others. Together, we sit with questionslike:

• What does it look like to pause before your impulse leads?
• How do you call someone in when they aren’t ready to hear it?
• Can you practice justice in the world before you’ve practiced it at home?
• What does it mean to be more than the sum of what happened to you?