There is no need to minimize your willingness to "just" love others, even your spouse! Humility, peace, and right thinking can't be forced on anyone. Their pursuit of wholeness in God is between HIM and them. We help you determine who wants your help and who doesn't. For those who don't, there's no need to live in fear or feel like you aren't doing enough to "just" love and pray for them. Until they are ready to receive, that's enough! Choose to work on yourself so when they are ready you will be ready too.