Parents today long for a better relationship with their kids than they had with their parents.

When my kids were young, I wanted to give them stuff. I wanted to provide for them and outdo what my parents had done for me. I kept thinkin’ it would make me a better parent. But what I thought I was doing for my kids, I was actually doing for myself! I found personal value when my children felt dependent on me.

Somewhere along the line, we’ve gotta change our approach. We need to quit providing everything and help our kids provide for themselves.

Even though it feels unnatural at times, don’t let your own needs overshadow what your teen truly needs. Mom, dad, teach your sons and daughters what it means to be free.

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