Abraham Lincoln says, "In the end, it's not the years in your life that counts, it's the life in your years". The way you eventually turn out is not about what life throws at you, it's about what you do with what life throws at you.
Success in life is about what you "can do", not what you "cannot do". Your success comes with your identity and ability. It is your responsibility to discover your identity and ability in order to reach your reality.