In this episode of The Quest for Self, we talk about ghosting and why it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the other person's capacity. If you've ever been ghosted and immediately started asking yourself what you did wrong, if you've replayed every conversation looking for where you messed up, or if you've spiraled into shame wondering why you're too much or not enough, this episode is for you. I share my personal story of being ghosted for the first time when I got back into dating. Everything seemed great. We'd gone on multiple dates, even brought our dogs to meet each other. And then he just disappeared. No explanation. No response. Just gone. And I went down that spiral. What's wrong with me? What could I have done differently? But here's what I learned: Ghosting isn't about you. It's about their inability to communicate. Their lack of emotional capacity. Their fear of real connection. In this episode, you'll learn why ghosting says more about the other person than it ever will about you, the question to ask yourself that stops the shame spiral immediately, why people say they want connection but run when things get real, how to reframe ghosting as information not rejection, and why being ghosted might actually be protection not loss. This isn't about toxic positivity or pretending it doesn't hurt. It does hurt. But the hurt doesn't mean you did something wrong. It means they couldn't show up the way you deserved.