Genuine effort and fake-ness shouldn’t be confused. Nobody’s perfect, but don’t use the ‘nobody’s perfect’ tactics to continue to be a crappy person. That doesn’t exempt you from putting in effort to make an actual realistic/honest change. We all got positive and negative attributes about ourselves, but by being self aware of those things and actually putting in the work to improve internally, just so you can grow and become a better person, is welcomed.

Trying to cover up your wrong doings by doing weird gestures/being fake nice out the blue and putting on this image as if you’re being the ‘bigger person’ just so that it can come off as if the person on the receiving end is holding a grudge towards you (so you could either throw off/confuse/conflict people and avoid taking responsibility or so that you can avoid looking at your true self (both negatives and positive attributes)) instead of actually taking accountability and doing the work is recessive towards REAL growth.