Do you feel like you're in an identity free-fall after divorce?
If so, you want to hear this episode where Julie introduces Ali Ryan, the newest member of Team FIERCE. Ali is an integrative coach and yoga teacher who specializes in trauma-informed somatic and relational frameworks. Her work supports safety, self-trust, and spacious possibility with practical presence and real-time support.
In this episode, Ali shares her own journey from being highly functional on the outside while deeply disconnected on the inside—doing everything "right" yet finding herself at the bottom of the well after her second divorce. She opens up about the moment her old blueprints cracked and how that became her entry point to discovering that she'd always been worthy and lovable without needing to earn it.
The conversation explores why so many accomplished women find themselves in an "identity free fall" after divorce, reaching for things like shopping and Starbucks to numb the pain rather than heal it. Ali explains how our brains are wired (we're only aware of 5% of our thought processes) and why traditional thought work, while important, isn't enough to create lasting transformation without nervous system regulation and somatic healing.
Julie and Ali discuss the power of removing masks, releasing binary thinking (stay or suffer, selfless or selfish), and what becomes possible when women create safety within themselves first. They explore the ripple effect of investing in yourself—not just for you, but for your children, your friendships, and everyone watching how you navigate this threshold.
The episode closes with a powerful reminder that grief can crack you open to who you really are in your essence, and that standing on this threshold isn't a loss—it's an invitation to something so much more.
Ali Ryan is a trauma-informed mentor and clinical leader disrupting the "hustle" narrative for the multi-hyphenate woman. Having navigated the complexities of coming out in her 30s, raising three neurodivergent children, and weathering two divorces, Ali has mastered the art of becoming the wave—finding her rhythm in the free-fall and turning the descent into a flow.
By integrating the precision of neuroscience with the soul of yogic philosophy, Ali created the HEART Framework. Her work goes beyond mindset, diving into deep somatic healing, parts work, and the intersections of our socialization to reclaim the body’
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About Julie:
After 23 years of marriage and a betrayal she never saw coming, Julie found herself starting over from scratch. No roadmap. No guarantee it would be okay. Just the decision that her life was worth rebuilding.
Julie is now a Certified Life Coach, a Health and Wellness Coach, and founder of the FIERCE Sisterhood — a transformative community for divorced women ready to rebuild their lives from the inside out. She hosts the Better Because of Divorce podcast because she believes divorced women deserve more than surface-level positivity. They deserve real, lasting transformation.
She knows what it costs to start over. And she knows what's possible on the other side.
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