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After months of silence, I need to tell you where I've been—because where I've been explains why everything about this podcast is about to change.

While finishing my Master's degree in Mind-Body Medicine, training my body intentionally for the first time, and building financial security, I kept sitting with one question: What if I'm not broken for being single?

That simple question—combined with the task-based mindfulness practice I developed for my capstone research—revealed something I'd been hiding from myself for 15 years: I might not be seeking partnership anymore. Not because I'm closed off or bitter or incapable of love. But because I might already be complete.

This transition episode is the bridge between who this podcast was (dating advice for Generation X singles seeking partnership) and who it's becoming (a space to explore singlehood as a legitimate, authentic identity).

I'm not here to convince you to be single. I'm here to explore what happens when you quiet your mind long enough to distinguish between cultural "shoulds" and your own internal truth—and to document what I discover when I do.

What You'll Discover in This Episode:

Where I've Been:

• Completing my Master's capstone on nature-based awe experiences and stress resilience
• The "small self phenomenon" that creates freedom instead of insignificance
• Why I hired a fitness coach (and what it taught me about giving my mind structured work)
• Building financial security for the first time in my life
• The pattern connecting all of these: quieting my mind enough to hear my truth

The Realization That Changed Everything:

• The difference between "seeking" and "being open"
• Why 15 years of healing work was valuable but based on a false premise
• The three types of single identity (counter-normative, peripheral, and core)
• How I moved from shame-based singlehood to possibly being "single at heart"
• What it means to be complete right now, not healing toward partnership

What This Podcast Is Becoming:

• From dating strategies to identity exploration
• Scholar-practitioner work: personal vulnerability grounded in peer-reviewed research
• The framework I'm writing a book about (and will teach throughout the podcast)
• What happens when you quiet your mind enough to hear what's actually true for you
• Exploring singlehood as authentic identity, not a problem to solve

Who This Is For (And Who It's Not For):

• NOT for: Dating strategies, tips to attract a partner, healing TO find love
• IS for: Questioning whether you actually want partnership, tired of feeling broken, curious about singlehood as identity, Gen X women navigating midlife

Key Quotes:

"What if I'm not broken for being single? What if I'm not healing TO find a relationship? What if I'm just... complete?"

"Seeking says: 'I need something outside myself to be complete.' Being open says: 'I'm complete, and I'm receptive to what comes.'"

"For 15 years, I believed the cultural story: If you're single, something's wrong. That story created so much shame. So much anxiety. So much performance."

"Right now, in this moment, I feel more authentic as a single person than I ever have. I feel more complete. I feel more free. I feel more ME."

"I'm not willing to perform uncertainty just to make other people comfortable. This might be who I am. And if it is, I want to live it fully."

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