In the heat of conflict we speak and act with what we know in the moment. Acknowledge any regrets then offer yourself the same compassion you would extend to a friend.

There is no one size fits all approach to supporting someone in grief. Simply ask, “What do you need from me right now?” and follow through.

When self criticism creeps in, counter it with gentle practices like mindful breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or a moment of stillness. Kindness toward yourself is the first step to healing.

Sometimes the greatest gift is silence. If words fail you, let your quiet presence speak volumes.

Memorial services end, but grief does not. Expect waves of emotion over time and honor your own unique timeline.

Experiencing happiness or laughter does not diminish your love or loss. Allow yourself moments of light even as you grieve.

If a comment or gesture wounds you, gently let others know. Sharing your pain helps others learn how to support you and protects your heart in future interactions.

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