Do you find yourself worrying that your child’s academic progress—and your own parenting—are being measured only by grades and big milestones? In this heartfelt episode of The Parenting Cipher, Genie Dawkins explores how parents can recognize and celebrate the quieter wins, support their children’s unique strengths, and give themselves grace—all while navigating the pressures of expectations at home and at school.

Episode Summary:

In this episode Genie Dawkins invites parents to take a step back and look beyond report card letters to the subtle, meaningful growth happening in their children’s lives—and in their own parenting journeys. Drawing from personal experience and W.E.B. Du Bois’ concept of double consciousness, Genie Dawkins discusses the internal pressures often faced by Black parents and neurodivergent children, the pitfalls of perfectionism, and the value of pausing to notice progress that isn’t always obvious. She shares stories about her children’s experiences with special education, the importance of validating small victories, and introduces practical strategies like "child mirroring" and "parent mirroring" for reflection and growth.

Key Takeaways:

• Why it’s essential to move beyond letter grades as the sole measure of progress, especially for neurodivergent children
• The impact of double consciousness on parents’ and children’s expectations of excellence
• How to spot subtle signs of emotional growth, resilience, and self-advocacy in your child
• Ways to use “child mirroring” and “parent mirroring” to recognize internal and often overlooked wins
• The importance of praising both your child and yourself for small steps forward
• How slowing down and being intentional can create a more supportive environment for your whole family

Links and Resources:

• Learn more about "double consciousness"
• Parenting resources from The Parenting Cipher
• Understanding Individualized Education Programs (IEPs)
• Child Mind Institute: Emotional Regulation and Resilience

Quotes:

"Sometimes the biggest growth our children make is silent. And sometimes the biggest growth we make as parents goes unnoticed too." — Genie Dawkins“Give them praise. Tell them, like, I’m so happy... That’s acknowledging something they may not even acknowledge.” — Genie Dawkins“Slow it down sometimes where you can appreciate what you’ve done for your child and how far they’ve come. Look at the small things, not just the big things, right?” — Genie Dawkins

Short Biography for Speaker:

Genie Dawkins is the host of The Parenting Cipher, a parent advocate, and special education strategist with lived experience raising neurodivergent children. She is passionate about empowering parents to navigate school systems, nurture their children’s gifts, and embrace their own wins along the way. Through stories, guidance, and community-building, Genie brings clarity, empathy, and actionable insight to families walking the path of special education and personal growth.

🎙️ Stay connected with Genie Dawkins and The Parenting Cipher! Get expert support for special education, advocacy, and family success. Book a complimentary strategy session here, download your free guide “Top 10 Advocacy Mistakes to Avoid”, or inquire about podcast/media collaborations here. Follow on Instagram @geniedawkins and visit www.geniedawkins.com. Thanks for listening — let’s build powerful journeys together!

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