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Beyond Shame: The Freedom of Hearing “It’s Not Your Fault with RJ Formanek on Living with FASD part 2


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We dig into life with FASD beyond labels: how shame warps identity, how routines protect mornings, and why late-blooming brains change everything. RJ shares the red shoes origin, practical language for kids, and a hopeful path from rage to self‑acceptance.

• removing shame and naming “it’s not your fault”
• morning reboot, windows, slow processing
• routines for sensory load and homeschooling
• caretaking as kids and delayed meltdowns
• diagnosis as a doorway to forgiveness
• age‑appropriate truth telling without trauma dumping
• dismaturity and brain domains explained
• comorbidities and “it’s complicated” framing
• experiential learning and practical supports
• neuroplasticity, myelination, and late blooming
• authentic voice: writing like you talk
• mentoring over short‑term coaching
• starting advocacy locally and year‑round
• debunking cultural myths and stigma
• community, hope, and the power of red shoes

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Real Talk with Tina and AnnBy Ann Kagarise