See we think that forgiveness is for the other person, and don't get me wrong, I'm married, I understand the power of the question, will you forgive me. That being said, it's 10,000 times more for you. Forgiveness isn't saying that what that person did was okay, it's not saying that you have to trust them, or even ever talk to them again, but it says, I will not longer tie myself to you or this situation, because that's what unforgiveness does, it's chains that hold you to that moment in time and you can't move on.