Body Breakdowns and Self-Love Breakthroughs: Lisa Pachence

"I want what's best for my clients and for the people that I serve, therefore I want to strive to be as excellent as I possibly can. So, I think that there's some good in survival mechanisms and there's also a way to shoot for the same goal, but from a place that is empowering, has a different story, and a different motivation than from a disempowered place.”

– Lisa Pachence

Summary: 

Eva was joined this week by Lisa Pachence. She is an Executive Life Coach and Career Consultant for big-hearted, high-achieving women who crave extraordinary lives without the exhaustion.

As an Elite Coach for coaches, entrepreneurs, and leaders, Lisa brings deep insights, practical tactics, and masterful partnership to enact transformative life and business changes. 

Lisa is a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) and founder of LP Coaching and Consulting, which offers designer programs for Executives, Young Leaders, Business Owners, and Career Changers.

In this very special episode Lisa and Eva discuss:

Feelings of isolation from chronic illness and pain - taking the “Body breakdown” to transformed relationship to self

Victim mentality vs. the responsibility to consistently choose

Guilt vs shame (shout out to Brene Brown!)

Taking control, and regaining a sense of self through coaching

Having patience in the process

+ How our automatic “survival mechanism” isn’t inherently bad (in fact, sometimes it’s necessary) but we can practice choosing more empowering contexts

Lisa’s links:

Coaching with Lisa Pachence Website

@coachingwithlp Instagram

Lisa Pachence Facebook Group

LinkedIn Page

BONUS Interview Questions:

What makes you feel: 

GOOD? Forming or deepening relationships.   

BAD? Being misunderstood, misquoted, scapegoated.   

RIGHT? Standing against injustice.   

ANGER? Seeing injustice or bullying.

JOY? Laughing with a good friend over a shared joke.

What is/are your disorder(s) and or illness/ condition/ailment?
Unresolved back pain for over a decade. Degenerative Disc Disease.

What would you like people to know about your daily life?

I’m somewhat recovered now, but having almost two decades of back pain has completely changed me and my relationship to myself. I have to continuously shed layers of shame, betrayal, and disappointment from years of body breakdowns.

What kind of support do you get from family or friends?
Quite a lot, but my friends and family didn’t understand for years. There was sympathy, and attempts to send solutions, but rarely empathy.

What stigma’s have you experienced related to your health? What do you think would have helped remove that stigma?  
The stigma of “she looks fit, why can’t she take a walk or participate in this easy activity?” The stigma could usually be removed with explanation, but it came with wracking guilt that I was a burden.

What is the hardest and/or best lesson your disorder has taught you?
Patience, inner healing, forgiving myself, and forgiving others.

What is your best coping mechanism or health "life hack"?

Getting OODLES of support. Unreasonable amounts of support.    

What are your top 3 tips for someone who is undiagnosed but they know that something is “off”? 

Don’t give up on the discovery. Keep inquiring until your body speaks to you and points you in a direction.

Don’t stop once you’ve been given a solution, or if a solution doesn’t work. Try it again, or seek another avenue. No one size fits all.

Find a coach, therapist, or community that you can lean on and get advice from. We CAN’T do it alone.         

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