Roxanne (39 pansexual submissive cis w f, partnered 20+ years ENM for two) shares how 10+ years of chronic pain led to hotter connection than ever with her partner through swinging, adult toys, phallic worship, exploring and pleasing her partners, and how she broke through the societal stigma of being in “the lifestyle.”

Her masturbation explorations started in her 30’s, but since then she’s made up for lost time—losing herself in (often nonverbal) subspace, feeling safe and supported by her husband Max (see ep 256!) booty call couple swapping, discovering mutual turn-ons, getting into hotwifing and learning she is a truly hot hotwife who is very into anal play, plugs with tails, and sharing her adult experiences with her online community—and all of this because she and her husband have excellent communication and a unique, unbreakable bond.



257 | Body Part Buffet: Roxanne’s Stories

How do we connect? What makes a mutually satisfying relationship? What are other people into? This is not erotica—these are real human stories. Guests share details of their personal lives and/or work to add emotional context to the confusing experience of attempting to relate to other human beings. The goal? To learn from and more deeply understand one another through exchanges of personal wisdom and experience. The focus is always connection and intimacy in our modern world: relationships, dating, friendship, cultural “norms” and taboos. Conversations explore vulnerability, shame, desire, pleasure, celebration, creative bucket lists, fantasy play spaces, irresistible invitations and so much more. Listen and share to co-create the story-based, connection-first sex ed we never got­—but will all definitely benefit from.
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263 | Playful Parts & Potential Partners: May’s Bucket List Wishes (2 of 2)

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263 | Birthday Sex: May’s Bucket List Wishes (1 of 2)

Chet (35 he/they straight-ish kitchen table poly Indian-American) comes on to share how his rebellion against shame led him to become a surrogate partner therapist and workshop facilitator who teaches clients how to build intimacy.

They talk about the importance of fun and play when working with clients, the different styles of sexual surrogacy, early group play experiences, using music to support connection, how curating experiences for friends turned into hosting play parties and how those skills translate into facilitating squirting workshops.

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262 | Sexual Surrogacy & Squirting: Chet’s Stories

Jiavani (30s she/him queer poly kinky comedian and performer) comes on to share why playing with fellow improvisers is next level role-play, the unexpected side effects of being a human drum, and how she discovered the importance of following the moment.

He talks about his experiences with religious shame, biphobia in the lesbian community, exploring with platonic friends, doing really well intimately internationally, and discovering his Domination style—she gives details about foot fetishes leading to submission, hot dirty talk from an Irish man, Nagini x Voldemort role play, dancing with partners (on and off the dance floor), making a man “go feral”, being a group play matchmaker—and spills the secret to always getting exactly what she wants.



261 | Rhythmic Waves of Pleasure: Jiavani’s Stories

kd (38 w Jewish slutty queer leatherdyke switch tattoo artist, partnered 12 years) always loved the smell of a leather glove, but her life was transformed when she was introduced to bootblacking in 2007 at Dark Odyssey Summer Camp. As International Ms Bootblack 2011 she is now entrenched in the LA leather community as a leader and organizer—she shares specifics about “how to give good chair”, from the process of bootblacking to the ways she tailors each experience to the person getting their leathers serviced.

She talks about what it means to be an uncle in the leather community, the best parts of being surrounded by horny homosexuals, how she learned bootblacking from her Daddy’s Daddy, why she prefers to use what she has on her person (hands, belt, boots) over implements in her impact play, the best parts of being a voyeur at play parties, and what it takes to be a safety-watcher. She loves punching, stomping, making out, flirting, topping, bottoming, and has always been fascinated by things that are swollen and engorged. kd shares how she fellates heels, licks soles, body-surfs in steel-toed boots, and thoroughly services friends and strangers on her knees—and while she can handle pretty much anything, she shares the one thing that still makes her queasy.



257 | Body Part Buffet: Roxanne’s Stories

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