In this bonus episode, Shabana shares a warm, honest, and deeply personal conversation about boundaries—why they matter, why they feel so hard during the holidays, and how choosing yourself can bring more peace, joy, and simplicity. From Thanksgiving expectations to healing old wounds, this episode invites you to rethink your “shoulds” and honor what your soul really needs.

✨ What You’ll Learn

• What a boundary actually is (in real-life terms)
• Why the holiday season brings extra pressure and people-pleasing
• How saying “no” can heal old patterns and create peace
• What childhood wounds have to do with boundaries
• How to choose simplicity, rest, and joy — without guilt
• Practical ideas for holiday boundaries that feel empowering

💛 Key Takeaways

• Boundaries protect your mental, emotional, and physical well-being.
• Choosing yourself is not selfish — it’s healing.
• People-pleasing is rooted in fear, not love.
• You don’t need permission to do the holidays differently.
• “No” is a full sentence… and a powerful one.

🧘 Holiday Boundary Ideas

• Don’t go — plan something restful and fun instead
• Go for a shorter time; drive separately
• Have a Zoom or FaceTime holiday
• Movie day, spa day, crafting, or de-cluttering
• Create new traditions with your family
• Say no to anything that drains your energy

💬 Quote of the Episode

“Never apologize for choosing your own mental health over somebody else’s comfort.”

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