What do you do when your family business is running you into the ground? How do you balance your relationships as family members and business partners? And when is it time to take a break? There are many big life questions in this letter from a listener who signs her name “Boss & Daughter”. Dr. Momma B provides lots of good resources for this precarious balancing act, and we hear advice and stories from another wise woman with a family business: singer Ruth Pointer of The Pointer Sisters. I’m sooooo excited (for you to hear these stories!)

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MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS
Women’s Business Development Center: https://www.wbdc.org/
SCORE for Small Business Advice: https://www.score.org
Inc article: “7 Rules for Avoiding Conflicts of Interest in a Family Business” https://www.inc.com/guides/201102/7-rules-of-conduct-for-family-businesses.html
Your new favorite Spotify playlist: https://open.spotify.com/user/1239148391/playlist/5PWHd3QySdpUXDOmEFrPsd?si=AmCwT2-TQx2syaWJLyY3sQ
Your new favorite YouTube playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLkLYXIc69XH8hYpvhC8kO90_uKtZnWob_

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Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing by Juliet Hinely and Samantha Land. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Publicity by Anna Beyder. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Ruth’s interview recorded by Isis Madrid. The song under our question is Rebel in Motion by Scissors for Lefty. Our theme music is by Love Jerks: www.lovejerks.com

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Ep 21: Boss & Daughter with Ruth Pointer of The Pointer Sisters

Advice from Mom is a podcast and cross-generational effort to answer life's big questions. Featured as “new and noteworthy” on Apple Podcasts and included on NPR's The Big Listen, Advice from Mom is an advice-column show hosted by Rebecca Garza-Bortman featuring listener letters and the advice and stories of her mother, Elizabeth Skibinski-Bortman, PhD. Affectionately known on the show as “Momma B”, Dr. Bortman is a small-town family therapist “on a one-woman mission to mother a mentally healthy world.” 

Each episode, this mother-daughter duo explores questions sent in by their listeners with the help of a series of guest experts. They have recorded advice with actress & SNL alum, Michaela Watkins; artist and graphic journalist, Wendy MacNaughton; and NPR's The Kitchen Sisters, as well as crisis counselors, authors, and wise creative professionals of all sorts. 

This podcast is founded on the belief that we need our mothers like we never have before. Not just our own mothers, but the mothers of the world. Anyone can submit a question at www.advicefrom.mom/request.

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How do we say goodbye in the grandest of ways? We voyage to a land of flashbacks, jinglecrafts and one of our shamefully-favorite childhood TV shows. Let's just say we'll all be Saved by The Good Advice. With the help of a special guest, our producer & editor, Juliet Hinely, we’ve made you a super nostalgic thank you note, so you’ll never forget us! 

Our episode references in this show: 
Peach Christ in “Ep 27: Peaches Christ & Veruca Bathsalts—mothering a cultural scene” 
https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/ep-27-peaches-christ

Eve R. Meyer in “Ep 10: Family Dynamics”
https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/episode-10-family-dynamics-season-1-finale

Emily Chang in “Ep 26: Emily Chang with her mother, Sandy—breaking up the boys club”
https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/ep-26-emily-chang 

Esther Perel in “Ep 14: Heart Left Hanging with Esther Perel”
https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/episode-14-heart-left-hanging-with-esther-perel 

Kitchen Sisters in “Ep 8: Making Progress”
https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/episode-8-making-progress  

Dianna L. Ploof, EdD in “Ep 6: Wise Moms of Pittsburgh”
https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/episode-6-wise-moms-of-pittsburgh

Dr. Sue Johnson in “Ep 38: Frustrated Sugar Mama with Dr. Sue Johnson”
https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/ep-38-frustrated-sugar-mama-with-dr-sue-johnson

Michaela Watkins in “Ep 9: The Long Haul”
https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/episode-9-the-long-haul 

Ruth Pointer in “Ep 21: Boss & Daughter with Ruth Pointer of The Pointer Sisters”
https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/ep-21-boss-daughter-with-ruth-pointer

Anna Sale in “Ep 31: Looking to Plant with Anna Sale”
https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/ep-31-looking-to-plant-with-anna-sale 

Negin Farsad in “Ep 32: Self-Care Sammiches with Lizz Winstead & Negin Farsad”
https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/ep-32-self-care-sammiches 

Dolores Huerta in “Ep 28: Dolores Huerta & Camila Chávez—mothering social action”
https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/ep-28-dolores-huerta-camila-chavezmothering-social-action 


Other things to make you laugh:
Zack Morris is Trash:
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLRcB4n4CGcy_r21EedmNUOyVP_puToBfr 

Learn some Pittsburghese:
https://www.wesa.fm/post/redd-your-pittsburghese-deep-dive-how-yinz-talk 
 
If you miss us:
Juliet Hinely on Twitter:
https://twitter.com/juliethinely 

Contact Mom & Becky (not the duck):
http://www.advicefrom.mom/contact 

Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing and Sound Design by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by Love Jerks: www.lovejerks.com/

Thanks to Juliet for not only being the best guest we’ve ever had on the show but also for her tireless work on this entire series. Thank you for being such an amazing partner in creating this show. What a journey it has been! Thanks for taking a chance on me!

A special thanks to Jocelyn Frank for connecting me with Juliet. Be sure to check out Jocelyn’s Sound Scene exhibition at the Hirschorn Museum in Washington DC next summer. 

This show would not have been possible without the generous loving support of our friends and loved ones… our husbands, Jerome, Bryan, and Narooz. Our friends: Carla, Carrie, Jean, Julie, Lori, Mary Beth, Mike, Paula, Mary Lynn, Diana, Diane, Lani, Geraldine, Millie, Zak, Stephanie, Marianne, Samaland, Lisa, Sissi, Annie B, Aviva, Sydney, Kate, Emily, Michael, Sadia, Avery, Reba, Serena, Ginny, Jane, Blair, Natalie, Elliot, Amy, Ali, and I’d also like to send hugs out to my sisters of assorted varieties: Laura, Cheryl, Sylvia, and Heather. 

This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.

Ep 40: A Grand Finale with All The Feelings

Is it possible to leave a job with grace, respect, and a feeling of success?

This episode explores how to quit your job well. Thanks to a listener letter from Architecting an Artful Exit, we dive into the emotions, the logistics, and the conversations required to make an elegant exit. We’ll even sing you a never-ending song that will motivate you to practice (endings). 

Today’s guest is a creative career advice podcast celeb. Kathleen Shannon is one half of the duo behind the wildly popular podcast Being Boss. Their podcast offers advice on the mindset, habits, routines, boundaries, and strategies that help creatives make a living doing what they love. The podcast has over 6 million downloads and has even become a book! Running Press published Being Boss: Take Control of Your Work and Live Life on Your Terms in April of 2018. 

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MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS

Being Boss, The Podcast: https://beingboss.club/podcast
Being Boss, The book: https://beingboss.club/book
More resources from Kathleen: https://beingboss.club/materials/worksheets
Practice, the song: https://youtu.be/uqemglBALr0
Kathleen’s Half Baked scene reference: https://youtu.be/qIqeXSYc8nE
More about the amazing career path of Kavitha: https://indianparadoxsf.com/about/ 

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Special thanks to Kavita Raghavan of Indian Paradox for being part of this episode. 

Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing and Sound Design by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by Love Jerks: www.lovejerks.com/

This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.

Ep 39: Architecting an Artful Exit with Kathleen Shannon of Being Boss

What do you do when you’re dreaming big, but your partner is just snoozing? What if you feel bitter about footing the bill, but your long-term relationship isn’t budging?

This episode explores relationship questions that affect so many couples: How do we understand ourselves and our mates? How do we truly communicate in a relationship? Thanks to a listener letter from Frustrated Sugar Mama, we two-step our way through these questions and more. We even learn the The Protest Polka!

Momma B & so many psychologists out there are thrilled for you to meet today’s guest, Dr. Sue Johnson, a clinical psychologist and the primary developer of Emotionally Focused Couples and Family Therapy (EFT). Dr. Johnson is also the author of the best-selling book, Hold Me Tight, Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love.

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MOMMA B’S & DR. SUE’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS

The Book: Hold Me Tight, Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love: http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/hold-me-tight-sue-johnson/1100211095?ean=9780316113007

The online program: Hold Me Tight Online Couples Workshop: http://holdmetightonline.com/159.html 

Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/103999.Toxic_Parents

Relationships and the Need To Fix Others: Are You a Fixer?
https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/the-deleterious-effects-of-child-abuse/

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Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Dr. Johnson’s interview was recorded in British Columbia, by Katie Sage! Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by Love Jerks.

This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.

Ep 38: Frustrated Sugar Mama with Dr. Sue Johnson

Just in time to make you say “I love the HoliYAYs,” we’ve dusted off our very first MomNet episode. Hear Detective Momma B PhD sleuth her way through some hearty family-induced stress scenarios. If you’re already on your second listen, we promise this episode just keeps getting butter. More about the Iowa Butter Cow:
https://www.iowastatefair.org/about/butter-cow/
Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing and Sound Design by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by Love Jerks: www.lovejerks.com/
This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.

Ep 37: A Second Helping for The Holidays

How do childhood experiences affect our adult behaviors? We're getting literary to find some answers with one of Momma B PhD’s favorite poems!

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MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS
The complete poem: “Children Learn What They Live” by Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/overcoming-child-abuse/201112/children-learn-what-they-live 

More background on the poem:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dorothy_Nolte

More about automatic negative thoughts: https://www.brainmdhealth.com/blog/4-questions-to-transform-your-thinking-and-lift-your-mood/ 

More about Trump’s childhood minister:
https://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2015/10/donald-trump-2016-norman-vincent-peale-213220
More about Trump’s mom:
https://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2017/11/03/mary-macleod-trump-donald-trump-mother-biography-mom-immigrant-scotland-215779
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Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Show editing by Juliet Hinely. Check out Juliet’s other show, Believed: https://believed.michiganradio.org Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by Love Jerks. New album out now: www.lovejerks.com 

This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.

Ep 21: Boss & Daughter with Ruth Pointer of The Pointer Sisters

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