There is a lot of talk about boundaries in recent years, and some great resources on them. I try and talk in today’s episode about maybe some new ways to look at them to give you a fresh perspective or another way to see them. Boundaries are so hard because at first you want to say ‘you can’t do this to me’ but really boundaries are NOT about the other person; boundaries aren't about telling another person what they can or can not do. Boundaries are about you, and your ‘property’ What you will allow, how you will be treated, and the clear expectation to others of how you will react if those boundaries get violated. My Counseller said to be once “you can’t throw boundaries on top of unhealthiness and hope it will fix it all” and I was like what? Isn’t that the point? lol but after digging in more, I now understand that boundaries are an amazing tool, but not a bandaid.