Episode summary

Mornings, homework, transitions, and bedtime can turn into total chaos when your child's executive function system hits overload. In this episode, I'll help you spot an executive function "traffic jam" in real time, translate "won't" into "can't yet, not like this," and use simple supports that lower conflict without lowering expectations. You'll leave with scripts you can say out loud and Tiny Wins that act like on-ramps when real life is coming in hot at 7:42 a.m.

In this episode you'll learn

• What executive functioning is (and what it is not) in plain parent language
• How to tell the difference between a skill problem, a fuel problem, and a support mismatch with the Jam Check: Skill, Fuel, Fit
• A brain-based traffic system metaphor that makes working memory, inhibition, flexibility, planning, initiation, time, and regulation finally click
• Why "they can do it sometimes" is not proof of manipulation, it's often proof of overload under stress
• What to say in the moment so you can add support without turning it into a debate
• A quick School Translator Minute so teacher feedback like "capable but inconsistent" turns into practical supports you can request

Tiny Wins to try this week

• Create one Drop Zone for the daily essentials (backpack, shoes, water bottle, instrument) and make it ridiculously easy to use
• Make one visual checklist for one routine (3 to 5 steps max) so fewer steps have to live in your voice
• Preview plus buffer for a recurring transition: "In five minutes we're switching. Two minutes before, I'll remind you."
• Use a body double for ignition: stay nearby just long enough for your child to start
• Make one micro-agreement for one recurring battle (homework start, shoes, bedtime steps) and keep it predictable for a week

Pick one. One is enough.

Free resources

• Boredom Buster Guide Quick, low-prep ideas to reduce boredom spirals without you becoming the entertainment committee. https://psyched2parent.myflodesk.com/boredomebusterguide
• Big Feeling Decoder Turn "hard behavior" into brain-based insight plus next-step scripts for the messy moments. https://psyched2parent.myflodesk.com/bigfeelingsdecoder
• 50 AI Prompts for Tired Parents Parent-friendly prompts to reduce decision fatigue and help you get unstuck faster. https://psyched2parent.myflodesk.com/aiprompts4parents

Research snapshot (brief)

Research mentioned: Jacobson et al. (2011), Lucassen et al. (2015), Spruijt et al. (2020), and O'Reilly et al. (2025).

Disclaimer

This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical, psychological, or legal advice. Listening to this podcast does not create a provider-client relationship. If you're concerned about your child's mental health, safety, or development, please consult a qualified professional in your area.