Hard conversations shape us—yet too often we avoid them, shut them down, or mistake venting for dialogue. Karen and Jonelle take a closer look at what really happens when conflict rises at the dinner table or online, from visceral reactions in the body to the cycle of rehearsed narratives that keep us stuck. They draw on both personal stories and research to show why silence is never neutral and why staying at the table matters. At the center of their conversation is the BRAVE framework: Breathe, Reflect, Acknowledge, Voice values over victory, Exit with intention. Each step offers a way to slow down, stay present, and create meaning instead of more division. Together, they wrestle with how to transform reactive moments into opportunities for understanding—proving that courage in conversation is not about winning, but about keeping connection alive.

Calls to Action

• Try the BRAVE steps in your next difficult conversation.
• Notice when you’re venting versus making meaning—pause and reflect.
• Reflect on one BRAVE step: which was hardest for you to practice, and why?

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