Hosts Jessilyn and Brian Persson talk about the differences in being attached to a pathway versus being committed to one in today’s episode. In their words, attached is a one-path solution whereas committed is a multi-path solution. Is the way we get to a goal more important than the result itself? This is what they explore today, investigating how this mindset can affect colleagues, friendships, and even family.

The three takeaways that Jessilyn highlights define how committed is a more flexible and freeing way to achieve a goal. Being committed means focusing on the outcome, it means moving on, and it means deciding if presumed expectations in life are meaningful. What sorts of things do we get attached to and how does that manifest in our lives? How can we shift to a committed perspective instead? Are there things we are clinging to that aren’t serving our journey the way they should? Join Jessilyn and Brian as they break down what committed versus attached can mean to relationships and outcomes in our lives. 

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Transcript 

Jessilyn Persson: [00:00:09] Welcome to the Life by Design podcast with your hosts, Jessilyn and Brian Persson. We help couples create the wealth they desire by sharing our stories of how we broke through the barriers to create our wealth.

Brian Persson: [00:00:19] We are the creators of the Discover Define Design framework, which supports you in resolving conflict and communicating better. Recently, we've created a branch of that teaching we are calling Relationships, Riches and Real Estate. We have a lot of personal experience, and there is a lot of demand from couples who want to get on the same page so that they can powerfully invest in real estate.

Jessilyn Persson: [00:00:42] Our topic today is committed versus attached. So what do we mean when we say committed versus attached?

Brian Persson: [00:00:50] Right. So attached, we can think of it as a one-path solution. There's only one way to do a particular thing. Committed is a multi-path solution. There is multiple ways to do the same thing. So one example is just doing dishes. We have some stories of our own ways of doing dishes. And we have one we want to share about some friends of ours. But attached would look like having only one way to load the dishwasher, and that would be the glasses have to go here, the dishes have to go there, whereas committed would be the dishes have to get clean if they run, if they get run through the dishwasher.

Jessilyn Persson: [00:01:31] Right. Right. Yeah. No, I remember a story with the good friends of ours that came over probably about a month ago now. We're having dinner, and he was very kindly loading our dishwasher, and you could tell he was a little hesitant of whether he was putting them in the right spot. And I was just kind of like, yeah, whatever, load them how you want. And I know his fiance, he's like, well, at home I have to load them a very specific way. And I remember looking at his fiance and kind of smiling, and you could tell, she's like, well, yeah, that's how they get done. And you, I remember you went to her and you're like, well, if you came home one day and the dishes were all clean and put away, would you be happy? She goes, yeah, he goes, would you ha