In this episode, Melissa and I talk about the process of breaking old patterns, feeling the things you used to avoid, and learning to regulate yourself in a way that doesn’t leave you exhausted.

Melissa shares what it was like to grow up being the “nervous system regulator” for the family, to losing a lot of people close to her in a very short period of time, and ultimately, how she went from detaching from those feelings to being able to trust them. 

We also get into the role of emotional awareness, how generational patterns shape us, and why sometimes, if the thing you need doesn’t exist—you have to create it yourself.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re slipping back into old patterns or like you’re carrying things that might not be yours—this one’s for you.

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Find Melissa on Instagram:⁠ https://www.instagram.com/melissamattyoga/ 

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Practice yoga with me on Sādhaka Studio:

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Come with me to Costa Rica:

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Timestamps

00:00 Intro

06:28 Navigating postpartum challenges

10:49 A really difficult five-year period and the role of emotional awareness

12:28 Detaching from feeling things in the body to learning to trust the body

17:17 Being the nervous system regulator for the family from a very young age

22:57 Slowly taking back autonomy and responsibility for my own happiness

26:28 Changing the patterns for the next generation

the next version you are becoming is going to require a whole new level of self-belief

27:59 Not becoming exhausted by the tendency to slip back into your old patterns

32:05 You have to create the thing that doesn’t exist

34:58 How the practice strengthens compassion

36:34 Why certainty is the lazy way out

41:34 Why it’s important to focus on the details in your practice 

45:14 Teaching to people’s aversions and the power of other people believing in you

48:30 Our tendency to hyper-independence versus having a community

50:19 Learning that you don’t have to do it alone

53:25 Questions from our followers