“Because it’s the way things have always been done.” How often does that response surface when you start questioning the way things are? When we talk about intergenerational trauma, this concept of tradition and remaining within the same cycles and patterns throughout years and generations can be hard to challenge. But let’s be honest - those old ways of doing things are often creating more harm than good. Those who go against the norms may be considered a black sheep in the family, maybe it’s time to let the black sheep take the lead! 

Joining The Conscious Leadership Podcast for a discussion all about breaking those cycles of trauma is Rubina Dhani, LMFT and BIWOC empowerment coach. In our discussion, we dive into the impact of intergenerational trauma, what it can look like to break those old patterns and cycles, and how trauma impacts everything from our DNA to personality disorders. Rubina also shares her journey in moving from a therapist to an online coach and healer alongside her own healing journey, and how she stepped into her authentic voice. 

When working through any journey of healing from trauma, it all comes down to the choice of how we want to live our lives. We get to make that decision every day. So if you can even increase the happiness in your life even one extra second a day, that is worth it. It might mean you need to break old patterns and break old cycles, but from this episode you’ll learn to keep asking yourself, “Is this the life I want to live?”

[1:38] Introduction to Rubina Dhani, LMFT and BIWOC empowerment coach

[3:46] Rubina shares how she started working with intergenerational trauma and how she stepped into her authentic self as a healer

[7:41] Helping our families and communities understand intergenerational trauma, and breaking old patterns and cycles.   

[13:33] Trauma and our DNA 

[17:14] The prevalence of codependency and poor parent-child relationships as intergenerational trauma within South Asian communities

[21:02] The role of trauma in personality disorders 

[24:47] Rubina’s experience moving from therapist to healer in the online space

[27:10] Dealing with people who disagree with you online, when you’re putting yourself out there and standing in your voice

[33:11] How to build trust in yourself and free up energy for the things you are seeking in life

[36:31] Rubina’s advice for those starting their healing journey 

[41:12] Upcoming healing programs to work with Rubina 

[47:30] Last words of encouragement and advice

This week’s guest was Rubina Dhani! Rubina is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and BIWOC empowerment coach, who helps WOC break generational trauma patterns, barriers of shame, and learn how to love themselves as full, unique, amazing beings. Find more from Rubina on IG @mindpeacewellness.

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This podcast was edited and produced by Soul Glitch Studios.