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Breaking The Silence, Healing The Pain with Latarsha Haughton
In this episode of the podcast Gavin is joined by Latarsha Haughton, an author and transformational life coach, about her life story including her transformation that lead her to become a coach.
You can donate to Gavin’s JustGiving page for The Ocean Cleanup by clicking here: https://bit.ly/3DRZefO
Donating through JustGiving is simple, fast and totally secure. Once you donate, they'll send your money directly to The Ocean Cleanup, so it's the most efficient way to give - saving time and cutting costs for the charity.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- I went through years of sexual trauma from my biological father, starting at the age of 8, then it stopped for a long time until I was 14, and I didn’t realise until I got older that I didn’t love myself, I was a people pleaser, I was always comparing myself to other people. I felt like I had no identity of my own, and it caused me to have a lot of bad relationships.
- When you come from sexual abuse you don’t know how to say “no” because you want to be obedient to this authority figure in your life. I became very promiscuous, would always say “yes, I’ll do it”, and didn’t know how to set sexual boundaries for myself or other people. Some people will get into alcohol, doing drugs, or start prostituting themselves, it all depends on that person’s mindset and what they want to do to numb the pain.
- I put a picture of myself as a little girl on my phone. Every time I made a decision I looked at that little girl and say: “Hey, is this good for her or not?” I was in a process of saving that 8-year-old little girl and that’s what helped me to set boundaries for myself. And it worked, I did it!
- I was in a marriage for 12 years and couldn’t understand why my husband kept cheating on me. It was excessive, he had three children with three different women outside of our marriage while we were married. I kept taking it but I was frustrated and I kept asking myself what was wrong with me and I’d blame myself. But, if I hadn’t been in that relationship I’d have never done therapy, which I did for 8 years and she helped my to understand that we were just two broken people in a relationship and that in order for me to understand myself, I had to go back to my childhood and deal with the sexual trauma and abuse and even having a child by my biological father. I’d suppressed so much and I had to re-learn a lot of things and the warped thinking I’d inherited from my father.
BEST MOMENTS
‘We were taught as children that “what goes on in my house stays in my house”, you didn’t talk about things like that and you didn’t hear other people talk about it.’
‘I can extend my hand and say “I’m not comfortable with a hug, but I will shake your hand” as opposed to me having to hug because that person wants to hug.’
‘It’s easy for you to forgive others, but it is so hard to forgive yourself.’
‘When you normalise abuse you don’t know what your triggers are. Once you begin your healing process then you’ll start to see what’s triggering you.’
ABOUT THE GUEST
Latarsha Haughton: Founder of Breaking the Silence Healing the Pain, I endured decades of trauma – including sexual and emotional abuse. With the help of God, prayer, and trauma-informed therapy after 30 years, I broke my silence. Today, I’ve transformed that pain into purpose, and now I create community for other survivors.
My entrepreneurial work includes this transformational life coaching practice, guiding people as they release wounds and embrace their power. I also serve as CEO of an assisted living community in Baltimore, We Care First Assisted Living, LLC.
I currently sit on the board of directors at Women and Warriors on Route to Higher Heights Ministries (W.O.R.T.H.H.) and Journey to Joy Ministries, where I’ve received training in prayer ministry and abuse recovery. I hold an award for “Choosing to Live” from The Standing Still Alliance, an organization focused on domestic violence advocacy and awareness.
I believe that remaining committed to studying biblical principles and rooting my ministries in the compassionate love of Christ is the key to my success as a transformational life coach. I currently reside in Tampa, Florida with my husband and my son.
CONTACT METHODS
Website: https://www.latarshahaughton.com/
ABOUT THE HOST
Gavin Scott is a born entrepreneur with a passion for start up and scale up. He has over 20 years real estate experience in investment and development.
Gavin says: Over the years I have discovered that mindset is everything. Now, that might sound obvious, but it is! You see the number of awoken minds are very few in reality. Whilst acknowledging mindset is key it is absolutely different from utilising, influencing, impacting and effecting great change, for yourself, your loved ones, friends, colleagues and the wider public.
Why?
Like most of us I have had many ups and downs. I want to share the lessons learnt and promote a better environment for all, internally and externally!
How?
Through sharing my own experiences and hosting some fabulous individuals including some big household names to discuss key topics around mindset and the success formulas I hope the listener will become inspired to create space for change for betterment in their lives. I aim to inspire change by encouragement, not by force. I intend to inspire by education, not by regulation.
CONTACT METHODS
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By Gav ScottIn this episode of the podcast Gavin is joined by Latarsha Haughton, an author and transformational life coach, about her life story including her transformation that lead her to become a coach.
You can donate to Gavin’s JustGiving page for The Ocean Cleanup by clicking here: https://bit.ly/3DRZefO
Donating through JustGiving is simple, fast and totally secure. Once you donate, they'll send your money directly to The Ocean Cleanup, so it's the most efficient way to give - saving time and cutting costs for the charity.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- I went through years of sexual trauma from my biological father, starting at the age of 8, then it stopped for a long time until I was 14, and I didn’t realise until I got older that I didn’t love myself, I was a people pleaser, I was always comparing myself to other people. I felt like I had no identity of my own, and it caused me to have a lot of bad relationships.
- When you come from sexual abuse you don’t know how to say “no” because you want to be obedient to this authority figure in your life. I became very promiscuous, would always say “yes, I’ll do it”, and didn’t know how to set sexual boundaries for myself or other people. Some people will get into alcohol, doing drugs, or start prostituting themselves, it all depends on that person’s mindset and what they want to do to numb the pain.
- I put a picture of myself as a little girl on my phone. Every time I made a decision I looked at that little girl and say: “Hey, is this good for her or not?” I was in a process of saving that 8-year-old little girl and that’s what helped me to set boundaries for myself. And it worked, I did it!
- I was in a marriage for 12 years and couldn’t understand why my husband kept cheating on me. It was excessive, he had three children with three different women outside of our marriage while we were married. I kept taking it but I was frustrated and I kept asking myself what was wrong with me and I’d blame myself. But, if I hadn’t been in that relationship I’d have never done therapy, which I did for 8 years and she helped my to understand that we were just two broken people in a relationship and that in order for me to understand myself, I had to go back to my childhood and deal with the sexual trauma and abuse and even having a child by my biological father. I’d suppressed so much and I had to re-learn a lot of things and the warped thinking I’d inherited from my father.
BEST MOMENTS
‘We were taught as children that “what goes on in my house stays in my house”, you didn’t talk about things like that and you didn’t hear other people talk about it.’
‘I can extend my hand and say “I’m not comfortable with a hug, but I will shake your hand” as opposed to me having to hug because that person wants to hug.’
‘It’s easy for you to forgive others, but it is so hard to forgive yourself.’
‘When you normalise abuse you don’t know what your triggers are. Once you begin your healing process then you’ll start to see what’s triggering you.’
ABOUT THE GUEST
Latarsha Haughton: Founder of Breaking the Silence Healing the Pain, I endured decades of trauma – including sexual and emotional abuse. With the help of God, prayer, and trauma-informed therapy after 30 years, I broke my silence. Today, I’ve transformed that pain into purpose, and now I create community for other survivors.
My entrepreneurial work includes this transformational life coaching practice, guiding people as they release wounds and embrace their power. I also serve as CEO of an assisted living community in Baltimore, We Care First Assisted Living, LLC.
I currently sit on the board of directors at Women and Warriors on Route to Higher Heights Ministries (W.O.R.T.H.H.) and Journey to Joy Ministries, where I’ve received training in prayer ministry and abuse recovery. I hold an award for “Choosing to Live” from The Standing Still Alliance, an organization focused on domestic violence advocacy and awareness.
I believe that remaining committed to studying biblical principles and rooting my ministries in the compassionate love of Christ is the key to my success as a transformational life coach. I currently reside in Tampa, Florida with my husband and my son.
CONTACT METHODS
Website: https://www.latarshahaughton.com/
ABOUT THE HOST
Gavin Scott is a born entrepreneur with a passion for start up and scale up. He has over 20 years real estate experience in investment and development.
Gavin says: Over the years I have discovered that mindset is everything. Now, that might sound obvious, but it is! You see the number of awoken minds are very few in reality. Whilst acknowledging mindset is key it is absolutely different from utilising, influencing, impacting and effecting great change, for yourself, your loved ones, friends, colleagues and the wider public.
Why?
Like most of us I have had many ups and downs. I want to share the lessons learnt and promote a better environment for all, internally and externally!
How?
Through sharing my own experiences and hosting some fabulous individuals including some big household names to discuss key topics around mindset and the success formulas I hope the listener will become inspired to create space for change for betterment in their lives. I aim to inspire change by encouragement, not by force. I intend to inspire by education, not by regulation.
CONTACT METHODS