Albert Schweitzer once said, ‘I don’t know what your destiny will be, but one thing I know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who will have sought and found how to serve.’ Are people generally drawn to you and want to spend time with you? If not, it might be because of one of these things: a) Pride. Nobody wants to be around someone who thinks they’re better than everyone else. b) Insecurity. If we’re uncomfortable with who we are, others will be too. c) Moodiness. When people never know what to expect from us and feel like they’ve got to tread carefully around us, they stop expecting anything at all and avoid us. d) Perfectionism. Others respect the desire for excellence but dread unrealistic expectations. e) Cynicism. People don’t want to be rained on by someone who sees a cloud around every silver lining. So, how do we build people up? 1) Change our focus. If we’re self-centred, we can’t strengthen and encourage others. Pay attention to your interactions with people during the next few days. As you talk to them, notice how much of your conversation is about you. If it tends to be most of the conversation, determine to tip the balance in favour of focusing on others. 2) Try to make a good first impression. The next time you meet someone, learn their name, focus on their interests, listen to them without interrupting, and be encouraging. The Message paraphrase says, ‘Strength is for service, not status. Each one of us needs to look after the good of the people around us, asking ourselves, “How can I help?”’

What Now?

Have a look at the points in today’s reading about why people are less drawn to us. Are there any that you have a tendency to do? Spend some time today asking God to help you work on improving in that area.