Painful sex is great if you’re into that – but if it isn’t on purpose, Doctor of Physical Therapy Heather Jeffcoat can help you. In this episode, she explains how her work transforms sex lives of women and trans people and makes sex pleasurable – and in some cases, possible – again. We get an overview of her book, Sex Without Pain, and Wyoh bookends the talk with some sexy listener shares.



60 | Bye-Bye Pain, Hello Pleasure: Dr. Heather Jeffcoat, DPT

How do we connect? What makes a mutually satisfying relationship? What are other people into? This is not erotica—these are real human stories. Guests share details of their personal lives and/or work to add emotional context to the confusing experience of attempting to relate to other human beings. The goal? To learn from and more deeply understand one another through exchanges of personal wisdom and experience. The focus is always connection and intimacy in our modern world: relationships, dating, friendship, cultural “norms” and taboos. Conversations explore vulnerability, shame, desire, pleasure, celebration, creative bucket lists, fantasy play spaces, irresistible invitations and so much more. Listen and share to co-create the story-based, connection-first sex ed we never got­—but will all definitely benefit from.
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Carly (38 bisexual monogam-ish cis f in a 5 year hetero relationship) shares how her love of erotica and desire to read “smarter porn” led her to create Aurore, a digital space for hot confessional stories.

She shares how turned on she gets edging herself in relationships that include cat-and-mouse games of desire, and talks about how (extremely!) intimately interviewing strangers abroad led to journaling that led to Aurore, and how helping people “name their shame” and connect with others and themselves can extend pleasure—and can maybe even surpass physical experiences of interpersonal play. Carly also shares why she LOVES marks and bruises, details of a special kissing-and-punching friendship in college, what she adores most about riding on top, and how committed relationships have the potential create a space of mutual trust that allows for more fun and freaky kinky exploration.



264 | Writing Your Porn: Carly of Aurore’s Stories

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Chet (35 he/they straight-ish kitchen table poly Indian-American) comes on to share how his rebellion against shame led him to become a surrogate partner therapist and workshop facilitator who teaches clients how to build intimacy.

They talk about the importance of fun and play when working with clients, the different styles of sexual surrogacy, early group play experiences, using music to support connection, how curating experiences for friends turned into hosting play parties and how those skills translate into facilitating squirting workshops.

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262 | Sexual Surrogacy & Squirting: Chet’s Stories

Jiavani (30s she/him queer poly kinky comedian and performer) comes on to share why playing with fellow improvisers is next level role-play, the unexpected side effects of being a human drum, and how she discovered the importance of following the moment.

He talks about his experiences with religious shame, biphobia in the lesbian community, exploring with platonic friends, doing really well intimately internationally, and discovering his Domination style—she gives details about foot fetishes leading to submission, hot dirty talk from an Irish man, Nagini x Voldemort role play, dancing with partners (on and off the dance floor), making a man “go feral”, being a group play matchmaker—and spills the secret to always getting exactly what she wants.



60 | Bye-Bye Pain, Hello Pleasure: Dr. Heather Jeffcoat, DPT

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