Yeah yeah, we’ve all debated this before. But let’s be honest; this gets murky fast when one person has (or had) feelings.
Let me just say it:
I actually don’t think men and women can stay close friends if there’s romantic history or lingering attraction.
And I personally wouldn’t date a guy whose “best friend” is a woman he once had feelings for. WHY? Because then I’m not just dealing with a friend, I’m dealing with a “what if”or “a maybe someday”. A human pause button on his emotional availability.
Could You Stay Close Friends With Someone You Once Wanted? Be real. Could you?
Or better yet, imagine your girlfriend has a male best friend she used to hook up with. She swears it’s nothing now. Would that sit well with you? Exactly. I didn’t think so.
Sometimes girlfriends (and boyfriends) can feel when there’s more going on.
Even if the words say “just friends,” the energy says “unfinished business.” Tune in to hear the whole segment.